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If a family member is on the autism spectrum, the rest of the family has a 50 percent chance of being diagnosed with the disorder as well and being a twin gives a 69 to 90 percent chance of being diagnosed with ASD [42]. Emily Brooks, 26, is a writer studying for her master's in disability studies at City University of New York. It might be more like two to one.

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Further, because autism and ADHD often occur together—and because people diagnosed with ADHD tend to have higher levels of autism traits than typical people do—girls who seem easily distracted or hyperactive may get this label, even when autism is more appropriate. Jennifer O'Toole, an author and founder of the Asperkids Web site and company, was not diagnosed until after her husband, daughter and sons were found to be on the spectrum. Note also that at the time I was planning to study abroad, I had a cumulative GPA below the required 3. Then, you could, by roll of dice, have participants pick from one of of three card types roll of 1 or 2, or 3 or 4, or 5 or 6 determines which card is selected. Current Opinion in Psychiatry. Your child may be on a natural supplement regimen and have dietary restrictions.

Anyone interested in Son-Rise, the website is http: It is so amazing and did wonders for my sweet boy and me. Parents with children of all ages can benefit. I have no affiliation with them, just passing on what has been so helpful to me. Way to go, Mama! I, too, have a 12 year old son who was diagnosed with HFA at the age of Ironically…his name is also Nathan.

This post really spoke to me. I am a over 25 year prek teacher and I have had the privilege of working with many children with autism. Each child was unique, beautiful and probably taught me more than I taught them. My heart broke with many of the families as I witnessed their struggles but I also rejoiced with them when their children made big and little advances. His case suppouse is even worse — simple autism and speaking disorder.

But he or we managed to change the situation — he attends almost regulary school with very small classes and takes part at some theatre projects. My boy EJ was diagnosed autistic about 2 years ago. He is now six and a half years old. I can just concur with all of your comments! I would like to share some successes with you — perhaps you may find it useful to try or perhaps you can share this with other parents of autistic children… you never know when you will make a world of difference in their lives by just sharing a simple tip….

Firstly I need to explain that EJ was a silent reflux baby which brought about its own set of challenges… but we also used to live in a very polluted environment large petrochemical factories and coal mines and this lead to a host of ear, nose and throat infections so we actually missed most of his childhood inoculations because he never seemed to be healthy enough to receive them.

But really this all paled in comparison to the lack of sleep I experienced as a full time single working professional mom… My boy seemed to be running on solar power as he almost NEVER slept… certainly not at night! For more than 5 years I did not sleep properly and this nearly meant the end of me. Firstly because of the reflux, then the constant ear infections and from about 2 years old I assume this was when his ASD developed because of the autism! I had him at doctors, specialists, pediatricians, and even the neurological pediatrician who diagnosed him.

I begged for any medication that would help him sleep. Later on I did not even care about what people would think if I asked for medication, I was so exhausted. December we went through a particularly tough patch were I went to work for the 4th morning consecutively without any sleep.

After some discussion I informed her that I have an atopic immune deficiency which makes me allergic to certain nausea medication. She mentioned that perhaps he inherited this and perhaps it was the anti-histamine in the meds that irritates him in stead of sedating him as one would usually expect. She advised I stop all meds containing anti-histamine which he has been taking constantly for a chronic stuffy nose.

I did not have much hope since the natural route was usually much less successful than chemical medications in my opinion at that time. EJ fell asleep very calmly after about half an hour and slept through the night for the first time in his life! I however sat up and checked his breathing and pulse all through the night and a few nights thereafter because I simply could not comprehend how this natural supplement could be working!

Turns out my autistic boy had a out-of-whack biorhythm and all he needed was jet lag meds to help his body realize that we are primitively designed to sleep when it is dark and wake up when it is daylight! I remember going to the doctor and asking him if the Melatonin has any side effects… turns out it has none. One capsule mixed with a bit of water or yogurt or whatever is available at night half an hour before bed and since the first night we never increased the dose and he never battled to sleep again.

This helps with over stimulation, irritation and with my energy to cope with all the ASD challenges. I am by no means an expert in the therapy but I can share what we have experienced: I do not mind figuring this out and I am convinced that I am not alone. I just think that the parents are the real specialists when it comes to conquering the challenges of autism and would in future prefer to consult with a parent first before consulting a medical professional.

LOVE their approach and insight. It does take about 3 years to implement the program but the successes are beyond belief! It certainly is aligned with my way of parenting with love an acceptance.

That brought tears to my eyes! It was like I wrote it myself. I pour every ounce of myself into trying to be a good parent, and helping my daughter learn to be a functional person. She is so frustrating and difficult to be around, so mean to her siblings. It does help to know we are not alone. I wish the best to all fellow parents of challenging children.

Thank you for your words. Today has been especially hard and I came across your article on Pinterest. It was exactly what I need when I needed it. My sweet boy is 12, is in middle school and struggles every day he goes. I want him to be happy and successful and it tears me up inside to see him struggle. But no matter how hard the day is I kiss my sweet boy goodnight and thank God for blessing me with him.

Thank you for helping me understand that I am not alone. It encourages me to read comments like this! You are definitely NOT alone! And you wrote it so beautifully. Thank you for writing with such vulnerable honesty the truest experience so many of us have.

I have 17yr old twins boy and girl who both have autism. They were diagnosed very late and yet they had been in therapies early.

It has been recommended that I pursue full custody when they turn That leaves me alone in my grief. This made me cry. My daughter is 7 and she also has high functioning autism. I just get so tired being momma bear, it can be exhausting.

Mum of 3 with 2 on the spectrum, one high functioning autism, one with autism and a probable diagnosis for myself to be high functioning autistic too. You echoed everything in my heart. Thank you so much for writing this post!

Not less or more, just different. So again, I thank you for giving me the peaceful feeling that comes from knowing another person truly understands. We have been fighting to get my 6Yr old Daughter the Help she needs For 3 yrs this past week was the end of her Kindergarten yr and we Finally got the ball rolling for her. I have the world prepaird for her at school all the while I forgot to at home. Heck I dont know if this makes any sence to anyone but me… Never the less Thank you.

Erika — I just came across your post. We have known for a couple of years that certain things were more challenging, but now we are in this diagnosis.

I have just come across your site, and will explore, but I also noticed you have 4 children. I have 4 also 8, 6, 4 and 18 months. Or just parenting 4 very different kids??? I needed to see them today. Thank you for this Erika! This was an amazing read! It was as if I wrote it myself! I am a true single parent to my amazing 12 year old son with HFA. I am the forever caregiver as I am a geriatric nurse as well working long, stressful days. I frequently feel overwhelmed and burnout setting in. We are about to move miles north, in hopes of a better life for us with more support.

Coming across your post today was a gift and it has given me hope that their are others like us out there! My daughter is now grown and doing extremely well, but the journey to get her to this point was daunting to say the least. Your message is so very true and the depth of understanding is so rare. I started crying when I read this! This is my daughter and myself to the T! Thank you for letting me know that I am not alone! As much emphasis is placed on a mothers isolation it is just as hard if not harder for a father.

You bring up a great point. Thank you for commenting, Travis. Hugs to you and your son! My husband feels the same way. But other people look at us and say or think, wow they must not be disciplining him. I am an occupational therapist with a 10 year old daughter with high functioning autism. I know how to advocate for her, I know what therapies she needs, I know how to set up her day for success, But unless you are walking the walk every day with a high functioning autistic child, you feel like there is no one to share your heartbreaks and successes with.

Top that off with information overload and living in a very rural community, and isolation is the only way to describe it. So thank you for helping me and every other parent of a high functioning ASD child a little less alone. Hello, as everyone else says, thank you for writing this post. I just happened across it and I am so happy that I did. I have an 11 year old son that was diagnosed with Asperger syndrome last year.

I have known since he was just a baby that something was different. He became more aggressive towards his little sister and us. We then moved out of state and with all the changes that were happening in his life at that time he was struggling. Nobody in that area worked with kids over the age of 6.

Well now what am I suppose to do????? Well I got annoyed enough about the doctors not being able to help us that I started looking into everything myself. I came across Asperger experts and they have a good online program. We eventually ended up moving back to our hometown and will be looking into finding some help for Ethan.

He seems happier now that we are back and a bit less aggressive. But I do notice a sadness about him. He misses where we just moved from even though we were there for a pretty short time 3 years. Everyday since he was a baby I have walked on egg shells around him. Never knowing what will trigger him into a meltdown or a shutdown. Guilt that I feel so burnt out by him. Guilt that I do t have the joy that I should have in being a mom. Guilt that I count down the days until he graduates.

Guilt that for years we thought he was just being disobedient. Sadness also that I look at other families and see such happy children and a mom filled with joy as she raises her kids, and think to myself I wishmy family was the same way.

A new couple just started attending our church and their daughter acts just like our son. Erika, Thank you for this beautiful and very relatable letter. I just came across this as I did an internet search. We could be good friends! You touched on so many things moms of theses very special kiddos share.

My baby is now 20 and life has gotten better is some areas, but more difficult in others. While she is beautiful and looks like a 20 year old, she has the social emotional maturity of someone much younger. We had an awful situation this fall while she was attending community college that almost crushed her heart and swallowed mine.

She was sexually assaulted by someone she know and trusted. It was unimaginable anguish. She is so trusting and naieve, But prayers and love and long talks with God are what get us through.

Do you know of any bloggers, support groups, etc online for moms of older kids with high functioning ASD? I would love to connect with other parents dealing with issues we are going through. Thank you so much! Well, I finally have an explanation that makes sense, kinda. I also had my heart break all over again listening to him talk about being left out, and feeling lonely.

She does great at school, some how not doing any ticks that anyone sees. When I pick her up from school full day reg. Kindergarten ; it starts. I always forget to take care of my self.

I have a husband and 18 year old daughter at home and a 22 year old daughter not far from home. No one else gets her like I do.

Husband and daughters are no help with her. They just think she is miss behaving and a lot of times they just yell at her to stop her ticks or behaviors. She is not potty trained yet either; she has no interest at all. So I just wait. The problem lately is she keeps getting ear infections on her 4th one I believe in the last 4 months. She also gets fever of degrees with the ear infections the one before this one she had for 4 days that only went down to with Tylenol or Ibuprofen.

Looking for new pediatrician for my old one had no concerns about my daugher ever. I got her tested and was found to be delayed enough to get into public school preschool. She was there for 3 years — 3 days a week for about 3 hours. She started to improve after only a month or two in preschool. She has missed so much school, and when she goes she is tardy a lot.

All of her little things that can go wrong some days. I found a few more just like me. I love her more than anything in the world and would do anything for her. Thank you for writing what I feel every day. I have shared the article on my FB page and encouraged my friends to read it. This is a great post that many of us can relate to. You might like my book, Beyond Rain Man, our very similar story medication, treatments, feeling like we were going crazy. My son is now 23 and doing well. My son was diagnosed a couple of months ago.

Thank you for posting this! I too like a few stuumled upon it whilst researching a million posts on the net regarding Autism. I had gone to a few professionals who had ruled out autism even though he had stereotypic movement. I realize this article is two years old, but I am just reading it now and I have tears in my eyes.

I was labeled a helicopter parent by doctors and their staffs. We were blessed to get a doctor who, after our 2nd appointment, asked me if anyone had ever mentioned my son might be Autistic.

He instantly became my hero. Unfortunately, the diagnosis was just 2 years ago. I try not to think about the missed opportunities for him. I get angry if I ponder it too much. This blog post was like you had been a fly on the wall in my most private moments. No one really understands. Sending you lots of hugs, Kim. I stumbled across this after getting my diagnosis of High Functioning autism last night.

She always says she wishes that she could just wave a magic wand and make everything better. My psychologist said after she said I had the diagnosis that she was going to discharge me, which was terrifying. Which are NOT caused by the autism, despite her believing so.

Which was never the case. And then then took me off it once I attempted suicide. She just wants me to be happy and so do I, really. Sorry for the rambling. I just came across this on Pinterest. It is such a mix of emotions having a high functioning Autistic child. My son was diagnosed at 3 and is now 12, this has been our life for some time. I find myself trying to convince those unkind as to how incredible he is. Praying for all of you Autism moms and for the sometimes difficult but incredible journey we get to experience.

Her speech is great. She still struggles to get to the point and has a little trouble with certain subjects in school. Math and writing are difficult for her at times.

She is higher functioning on the spectrum. I can only imagine what it must be like for those whose disability is far more challenging for them. Sometimes I feel bad expressing my feelings on this when I know there are people who struggle with far worse. I came upon this article by Erika no last name provided and it was so comforting for me.

Your email address will not be published. Leave this field empty. Peace to you and your child. Hi Nick, So glad i stumbled on your comments, its true nothing, and its pretty much nothing is aimed or offered at single dads with austic children.

You are definitely not alone! My son is I cru for him almost nightly. I had no idea you had a child with Down Syndrome, Val. I learn something new each day. Thank you for commenting. Comments like yours mean so much to me. Thank you for taking the time to share. God gives us the perfect child… for us. Thank you for putting, so eloquently, into words the thoughts and feeling of my heart.

I felt like you spoke my heart: Thanks for sharing, Alicia. Hugs, Val, to you and your sweet daughter! WOW… My son was diagnosed at age 3 with high functioning autism…. Thank you for your article…I cried and smiled! We are all kindred spirits in this journey! Praying for you and your daughter. Hugs to you, Julie! My son has at least 3 diagnosis too. You are not alone! Thank you for commenting, Malia. Your words mean so much to me too! You are not alone. Wow, funny how similar. Thanks for commenting, Leslie.

Hugs to you and your Nathan! Dear Erika and fellow parents of autistic kids My boy EJ was diagnosed autistic about 2 years ago. I would like to share some successes with you — perhaps you may find it useful to try or perhaps you can share this with other parents of autistic children… you never know when you will make a world of difference in their lives by just sharing a simple tip… Firstly I need to explain that EJ was a silent reflux baby which brought about its own set of challenges… but we also used to live in a very polluted environment large petrochemical factories and coal mines and this lead to a host of ear, nose and throat infections so we actually missed most of his childhood inoculations because he never seemed to be healthy enough to receive them.

Best wishes to all for an Awesometistic day! Zanet Pieterse Swakopmund Namibia. Thank you so much for this. I really needed hearing this today. Thank God, we are never as alone as we might feel. Thank you I didnt know it till just now ,but I needed to see that today. I wish you and your family the very best! You are doing an amazing job! To you and your son…. Trackbacks […] Autism is different. Leave a Reply Cancel reply Your email address will not be published.

These individuals recognize that being a woman is less socially and culturally demanding than being a man. Their effeminate qualities become amplified by the female domination of virtually all careers in services used to help the autistic cope with ordinary society speech therapists, special education teachers, etc. The estrogen saturation of these fields means that even autistics without the transsexual delusion have no idea how most women behave or what they expect of a man.

Searching for a behavioral code, male kids with autism soak up the pleasant, idealized utopian principles of modernist chivalry that would only work partially in America before the late s. Consider how many young autistic guys try to emulate the dated fashion of the Hollywood Golden Age by wearing trench coats and fedoras with tweed slacks. Unfortunately the feminist institutions have neutered us neurotypicals neologism for people without autism , but these guys are even worse off.

In this article, I outline the four things that autistic young men need to do if they want to implant those prosthetic blades and run in the marathon. I arrived on-site for the first day of volunteering with high-functioning autistic teenagers with one of my side pieces.

I arrived 10 minutes earlier than planned, so I told my sidepiece that she could leave while I chatted up the teens. I broke the ice with one of the bigger teenagers glued to his laptop. Telling the kid that momma has his best interests at heart, but she cannot be his spokesperson. This is the first and maybe most crippling mistake of autistic youths. They and their mothers form a codependent relationship, wherein mommy keeps running their lives well into early adulthood in return for never going through Empty Nest Syndrome.

After a few days I settled into the routines of the program, and had my epiphany that the majority of people who work with special needs clients are women. Everything from remedial social skills therapy to the speech pathology is dispensed by college-indoctrinated younger women. They are obliviously spoon-fed media and education indoctrination system propaganda for their developmental years, and from an early age expect that these educators will be their emotional tampon.

Even worse, their hyper-focused education pathway conditions them to think of the perfect woman as a surrogate mama, and these allegedly trained specialist ladies truly were kindly, maternal figures. Contrary to that nurturing, reciprocating behavior, autistic men need to understand that a typical woman is emotionally extractive. That brings me to point 3.

While his parents and educators fed him loads of low-fat dessert foods hoping for miracles, I suggested that X make those sweets a weekly treat instead of a daily decadence. Normal people have a hard enough time avoiding these traps, and routinely accept ideas implanted by conventional wisdom and the popular media as incontrovertible. Autism can make critical thinking about social trends about times harder.

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Therapies Psychotropic medication antipsychotics Aripiprazole Risperidone. You are definitely not alone, Tracie.

dating a high functioning autistic

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