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What is up please I need answer? Suse I asked my boyfriend if he have another girl, he answered something like that yes. Always bringing it up and asking how many guys I have been with. What does that even mean? Or, maybe, they are just not that interested in you. He text me he was thinking about something that he wanted to say but he cannot say it but he wants to say it. Single mother, 24, who lost her baby son to cot death reveals how she trawled the internet for a sperm donor

Really, its urgent to know if you have hot eyes? What does that even mean? For instance, do you mean before you ever started dating he was obviously trying to say you have bad eyes? Congradulations, you win the prize for making the least sense. Everything was goin really well. He came to my house every night, with no pressure from me I might add. I didnt call myself his girlfriend as I thought it was to early. Well… leaving comments is one way.

Another way is to post your question in the forum dating. Believe me, if I could answer every question personally I would, but we get hundreds of questions every day so we can only get to so many.

Short and to-the-point will definitely help your chances of getting an answer. I was with a man, for 12 years. He was young when we met. We broke up a few times, then it became final, only because he is now dating a much younger girl then him, from another country.

She is very very young, and does not have a whole lot of life experience. She is 19, he is The week we broke up, we made love, we cried, and he said he loved me. It was a very emotional time for both of us. It was like both our worlds were ending. The next week, he is texting this girl from the states, and falls deep in love, and they are telling each other they love each other.

Anyhow, we get together for coffee etc. I talk, and I tell him how much I love him and want my life with him, as I always have. He still needs the connection to me. We still talk on the phone, I still tell him I love him. Anyhow what I am asking is, being a grown woman, is this really just a phase because he was young when we met? Is he looking for his young hood so to speak? I have let him go, so he can experience this, knowing it is probably just a phase. However the way he looks at me, all the time, I know he still loves me.

I tell him all the time, I know he still does. Think of him as emotional vampire. He is healing himself and getting over you by being near you.

He saps away your happiness. And while you love him if you two broke up and you want him back I would say to not contact him for about 3 weeks. If he says hey say hey back but then tell him you are busy. All what my boyfriend ask if i have brought him food. Hi i have been in a relationship with this guy,he love me and i love him,but the thing is he is married,and i also told him that am enganged,but yet still he agreed and go on even if i get married he will still be with me and he insisted me to show him my man who will marry me.

One day he told me that there was a girl he knew long time ago and that girl started phoning him so he told his wife to answer the phone call to shut her down.

I love you and i only wanna be with you! Then i tell him to take it off then and he says ok i promise. But i know i love him a lot but i need help what should i do does he really love me or is he creeping around? You really need to say good bye to this guy. He is playing you, and his other girl. It is not fair to either of you. You are better then this, and deserve more. Someone who respects you, and the ground you walk on.

Not someone who walks on you. He said he was sorry i said it was ok but my heart was unhappy. I would move on and find a guy that cares for you.

Men that are in love buy a Valentine card or a stuffed bear whatever the occassion. So me and my boyfriend have 1year and 3months Im 17years old and his 23 ilovehim but …..

I really need advice: Maybe he was drunk? I dated this guy for about three month. Everything was going pretty well between us until one of my friends told me he was cheating on me and sleeping with other girls. When I asked him about it he was angry at me for thinking he would do that. This friend was a pretty close friend and she heard the news from her brother who hung out with him. He stopped talking to my friends brother because of this.

He said he could like to confront my friend who accused him for cheating and sleeping with other girls. Should I just ignore what my friend said he did. Part of me believes him but I also believe my friend. Me and my boyfriend have been together for going on 4 years. We lived together for most of time.

When his friends started popping up he started acting wierd. Claimin i was cheatin on him. We have had 2 kids one that is now 16 months and a little girl 13 weeks ago and we put her up for adoption.

He talks to me all day every day. He wants to have a better relationship with his son. Im having really mixed feelings about my bf. We have been dating for months and we are extremely different than each other. Sometimes i love him, and sometimes I dont. I dont want to feel that way for the rest of my life. He is extremely sensitive and cries all the time. I need to break up with him but i really cant bring myself to do it.

Hes 22 and hes way too immature. How do i break it to him? Ive told him many times about little things he does that needs to stop, and he says hell change but never does, and he never listens to me. I dont talk much so usually when I say something, its important. Hi Ashley, I totally understand you… I was in the same situation over a year ago. He was the most sensitive guy I had ever met, cried, had panic attacks, and relied on me too much.

I felt like I had to be a mother in front of him because I am a very independent person. There were numerous things that I had told about the things he does that needs to stop, and he always said he would change but he never did. We dated for 9 months and I ended the relationship over summer break on Skype.

Not the best way to do it I know, but as we spent time apart during summer I realized what a burden he was becoming and how he was mentally dragging me down along with himself. You should break up with him.

You will find someone better, I promise. Because I did and I am very happy right now! You said you would change, but you never tried to. You could never understand how what meant so little to you could mean the world to me. He text me he was thinking about something that he wanted to say but he cannot say it but he wants to say it. He said he was confused. Usually people behave like your bf behaving with you when they want to quit a relationship.

Then this one time he asked me to go over to his house for dinner and i agreed since i had refused so many times, then things happened and it got too late to go home and i had to sleepover at his house and needless to say we had sex for the first time.

Eric, I do not know you, but you are my best friend! U taught me through your writings what nobody else has managed to: You articles made me feel more confident and happy with my life and realize that I do not have to depend on others in order to be happy, and since then my relationships with all people in my life have improved.

And thank you for that comment, I really appreciate hearing that I helped you. Such a constructive articles; would second Irka on that one; thank you Eric for reflecting the simple yet smart thinking of a relationship.

Okay, so me and my ex broke up about a month ago. We were really close and we hung out everyday and now that I think about it that was a bad idea. We went on a break for a couple of days and I honestly thought that would never have happened and I was shocked. After a couple Of days we got back together and it was kind of awkward and we were fighting.

I kept asking him what was wrong but he kept saying nothing. At first I said yes and I was crying because of the break up and we were both sad about it but we kept talking to each other for a couple of days. A couple of weeks later I told him I was okay with being friends and he said he would think about it. Ty and told me to leave him alone. Right now we are avoiding each other and being mean to each other but sometimes it seems like he still cares about me.

Idk what to do should I tell him that what we are doing is stupid and that we should be friends? Should I just let him go and get over him or should I try to get through to him?

I think you should leave him alone and move on! The reason I say this is because beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Im in my second month with my amazing boyfriend. We talked about it and we decided to try new things. Find ways to spice it up. This is a lesson for a future realationship. STOP texting the poor boy. Play the game if you want him back. Then let some time past.

Maybe send a text saying Happy New Years and leave it at that. Take his shoes and put them on. By this time it should be easier to detach from the realationship after playing the game a bit and prepare you for the next realationship. Hey my ex has a new girl and his life they was chilling n I knew nothing about it.. Then she did some to make herself noticeable cause I knew nothing about her! So once I seen them hugging and kissing but now he doesnt do those things with her.. Why will he come back in my life if he was chilling with her!

He tells me everything they do and they only hang out late night but he is trying to keep me in his life and he say she is cool but he cant see his self with her and he has none else to do! If he treats her like that then you can see how he will probably treat you. Would you want him to talk about you like that? Would you want him to say that to another girl if you were with him?

And if he is only using someone because he has nothing else to do…. He is basically using her. Sounds like the guy needs to do some soul searching and decide what he really wants.

I have been dating this guy since August. I never through a fit when he goest to his buddies but when I hang out with mine he gets all upset. What is up please I need answer? Honestly I dated a guy just like that. I am in a relationship just like that.

So i dont kno if in this case im the one wrong for going to these places. Whenever i go to the clubs i go with my girlfriends i never dance with other guys n wen it comes to parties is the same thing i dont even drink. Im not sure what is his worry. I dont know what to do because im 18 and im in college and obviously i like to go out but then again i love this guy. I was married to someone like the guy you described and when I realised he would never change, I just gave it all up… not worth the time and effort.

It only takes a bit of patience and not giving up on meeting other people. He is always saying how much he loves me in really sweet ways and how much i mean to him and i feel the same way. How can i let him know that he is everything to me without sounding cheesy.? I have a friend who is an ex who really wants to be with me again, But hes with a girl who he got regnant and says that after the baby is born and adopted off hes gonna ditch her to get back with me.

Hes telling her and other people that hes not gonna leave her but tells me a whole different story. So what do you think is going on with his head? Cause according to him hes only with her cause shes pregnant but his heart is beating for me. You should realize that hes having a baby with her you should be telling hym to stay with her that you dnt wan to be with hym that he should be there taki.

Hello, I just want to know why do my boyfriend like to make love to me, or have sex? My bf and I have been going out for at least 2 and a half months now, but for some reason, every time we make out, he keeps on touching me in my private areas. Should I let him do that? My boyfriend and I have been living together for 5 yrs…we have 2 lil girls.

I over heard him one time on the phone with his mom, telling her he was just staying with me for his daughter…. My friend started to see this guy. Nice guy but he picked her up beer on the way over and when she offered to give him money for it he took it. I think this might be a deal breaker… what do you think he should have done? PS he works and owns a company small with his friends has his own house and car.

I am 17 and I am in long distance with a guy of 21 years living in Italy. We knew each other when we were very small. He was interested in me when he was in relationship with some other girl 4 years back and I knew this.

Early also we were in relationship for a month or two 3 years back with I left him because of some family problems. But we are again together from 3 months and 16 days. And at times I do call him but my call him I remain with no words. We both love each other alot. What should I do with his talks?? I never met him as his girlfriend should I go this time when I go to Italy? Hello Everyone, I have a guy friend, we always hang out and do stuff together, he told me he is growing very fond of me?

I really feel better to have seen this website, I have a boyfriend who used to care a lot about me, we met 2yrs back, and ater a year he asked me to have a baby with him, promised to marry because i told him that the father of the baby i want should be the man who is going to marry me, we agreed on that.

I was living about km away from him after the pregnancy because of the transfer i was given. Ever since he went to the place once, and never started to tell me that the place is far but he never did until i asked for a transfer.

My man has changed a lot that even if i am around he enjoys the company of the other guy who we are sharing a house with. He never seat next to me, always besides the girl.

I bed he distance himself from me, he never kiss nor hug, he never enjoy talking to me, never sms like he used to, never call me with those romatic names, this girls is always calling him and they will spend more than an hour talking in my presence, all these he did to the girl infront of me.

Hey i have a problem.. Ive been with my bf 18months and just recently he has found out i lied and he ended it with me. How can i get him bk? How can i prove to him that i wouldnt do it again? Recnetly hes become very distant and thoughts r going through ny head like does he have a new gf has he cheated.. Im not sure what to do. Can u help me get him back please? Eric, I have been in a wonderful relationship for 2 years and he always said he wants to marry me. But recently I found that he was lying about his past and he was married twice before and had kids from these relationships.

He always told me he was a bachelor in his entire life. I want to leave, but I am so much in love with this guy. So I decided to stay, but went ahead and asked him. I am so confused now. I want this man and is there any way I can make him talk to me? Tell him that u love him, and that u were just curious about his past.

I mean who isnt? Ask him y he lied, and y it was a secret. U love him for him, not the name of him, or what he is or what he does, u love what makes him up. From his laugh to his smile. And all the sweet talk, and how he makes u feel better when ur down.

Tell him u dont care about that, that u only care bout u and him, nothin else. This almost always works.

Then, all of a sudden, he pulls away and stops his chase. So ive been going out with my boyfriend for over a year and hes cheated on me and i took him back, because he says he loved me. He shows he really loves me, but i dont know if he really loves me. Hes lied and cheated so i dont know if to believe it. Ive noticed last few months he hasnt been like that as much. I have been acting a bit more needy, clingy latelty…would that make him withdrawal a little bit too?

And yet… obvious too? They have their independent, fulfilling lives: And then, slowly but surely, they start giving up those pieces of their independent lives to spend more time in their relationship. Then life starts throwing stresses and obstacles in the way. One or both people in the relationship start putting other things in front of the relationship. The other person is in the same boat — dealing with life, putting other things in front of the relationship and not putting as much in, but expecting to get just as much out….

Well… you get what you put in. And that sole dependency on your relationship to fulfill you neediness causes stress on your partner. It ADDS to his problems and stresses instead of replenishing him. Let your life fill you up, and then let the overflow of your fulfillment spill into your relationship John Grey was actually the first person I heard put it like this, so credit to him on that metaphor. Hope that helps and thanks for your concise, to-the-point question. My boyfriend broke up with because he was going through a lot ,The bank took his car and his house was about to be reposesed,so we He dumped he said he doesnt want to waste my time so it is better if i just dump him and moveon with my life he said he want to serve god,he doesnt want to date anymor ,So didnt argue with but i just let it go.

And to all of you who have problems in with your boyfriend or girlfriend Let it go stop making yourselves some1 second option,T. D jakes said If piple walk out of your life let them go,it mean you were not Conected to them so let them go,is not easy i know but trust me U will thank yourselves. I want to see him but he ask me why i want to see him and if i am fine and he also told me he is trying to move on and he suggest i do the same. I wanted to know if my boyfriend in cheating…or well in this case would you guys think it is considered cheating or that he will cheat?

Well recently on facebook an old friend has contacted me and found out I was dating my current boyfriend and added him as a friend and now I think they may be talking to each other. When I ask if they speak he tells me just a few times while playing facebook games but never mentions the emails. They talk about things could happen and that they are still young and stuff?

I had been dating my boyfriend for basically almost 3 years. Junior and senior year of high school and it was not the best relationship. We took a year break though our first year of college.

He left for school and became distant. He came to visit me 2 weekends after it was my first weekend of college and while he was out of my room I logged onto his facebook i know thats bad.

SO i confronted him about it and he said he kissed her drunk once at a party. I started to give him another chance cuz he told me so many amazing things and he changed completely and gave me so much love but then i decided i could not forgive him right now so now i am not talking to him. I broke up with my boyfriend 3 months back,and last night He called said he is coming to pick me i refused and he got upset Does it mean he still love me.

Well I just left him like 4 days ago and this is the first time he has shown his Stuart on Facebook to all of his friends now that he is single. And at the moment I am enjoying my days as being sing. Steph same thing me and my now husband in a very long distabce erlationship for very long time we have never lived together.

I thought things were great but found he cheated on me not once but twice maybe more? But 2 times I can account for and then he was messing around with a girl ona cruise ship that he worked on and found out he had 2 facebooks on the one facebook he had her on his frineds list she had their picture up and stated they were in a relationship. Fought to get control over that find out he still texting girls hes meeting on the ship telling me they are co workers finding out they were guest on the cruise ships.

Every time I ask him he get pissed off cos I checking on him well I am the one that should be pissed off because byt his time we are married he used t have his status on facebook as married but now he makes it so his profile hides that info and Im seeing him having his picture taken with all these different girls. Based on previouls lies I really wonder if hes back to cheating on me, something he swore he would never do after we got married and oh yes we do have a baby together, he always calls and says kiss her for me but makes no such remarks to me.

In fact I had a battle with him and his damn ass attitude tonite as well. Your article is very helpful but I am curious about something else. Even for guys who do talk about their feelings, it can still sometimes be a challenge. And there lies the problem…. Guys are much more inclined to look at the evidence in front of them and draw conclusions.

Unfortunately, long distance relationships rely heavily on good communication to compensate from the other person not being present. One thing though, he always says one thing then does another. I really just want to believe him. Thru I really do alot for him. After 8 months of the same thing. Am I wrong for always wanting to believe in him?

I think he means that he needs to make caring for his children and raising them a priority. In the meantime, keep yourself busy doing things that you love doing and enjoying life. Hi i broke up with my boyfriend and He claim that he has moved on with his life, But each time he come to me he want to have sex with me.

Does it mean he still love me. Unfortunately I think he just loves having sex with you. Of course I am replying from a female perspective and not a guys so I am not saying that this is guaranteed. This article was fantastic and I want to say that I was in a relationship with someone who I loved very much and I know that he loved me a tonne too.

He was not calling and not being available and it was making me so upset that every time I did see him I would cry. This was our eventual demise.

He was very open with me and we are still quite close but not in a romantic way. He did tell me that this was the reason that he felt we needed to break up. Lesson learned on my end.

What you have said is so valuable, Eric. Thank to you, now I understand my boyfriend better. I read him better now. Love does not mean that you should expect him to pick up the phone all the time or text you constantly. The guy sounds like an absolute douche-bag, you need some self respect honey. Take are of you, kick the trash to the curb! They have been separated for 5 years. Since I have known him for a few years and i did not want set in stone relationship I was OK with the arrangement.

He has been living with me ever since. It caught me off guard of course. I asked him if he was sure that is what he wanted and it was OK if maybe he was not correctly or just was caught up in the moment and I asked him this on three separate occasions each time he insisted he meant what he said.

So 3 months after that the no contact order was lifted. I was absolutely supportive of him seeing his children. So every weekend he would go stay at their house.

So my problem is I have caught him in multiple lies every weekend there is a new lie that comes up. His response is I am crazy I am seeing things. Why is the first thing he does when he gets home from seeing his kids is take a shower? Telling me he cant wait til she lets him take the kids on his own. If he knew I was OK with him leaving to go back to her why continue to lie when he is caught.

I believed him when he said he wanted to be with me and I allowed myself to fall in love with him. What do I do? Do I get it over with and tell him to go? Obviously he is a complete ass, who wants his cake and too eat it too. Your first clue should have been that he had a no contact order.

Take your kids and run away as fast as you can! I am with you there my ex and I fought all the time because that was all that was ever said when we talked. Because he was either busy or with friends. Mind you this was long distance and he hardly had time to have a meaning full conversation with me. That was extremely well put, and it is all true. ALSO…he played a trick on me and old me he was gonna break up wih me.. Until there is a ring on your finger just dont believe when they purpose.

Even if there is a ring they can still cheat. Mine says that too. It is a way of them really asking you who it is that called you and to see if its another guy or if its a girl. Basicly they are a little jeolous and insecure. He want to be the only one.

I have a question. My bf texes me after 4 months I love you. How can he love me when we only see eachother once a wk. I get very suspicious what he does during the whole week. I have been there a ffew times but the visits are usually short. I just dont knowhow i can really know if he reallly means it. Wow, I have been with the same man for over five years now and we got engaged two years ago on valentines day.

In the beginning he was really attentive and romantic. There was poetry, flowers and a lot of romance. I had friends back then and I also worked.

Something happened after we got engaged. The romance stopped, he never calls me or sends those romantic texts. I am always honest about my feelings so I told him it hurts that he makes no effort anymore.

He says hes sorry and he will change but he never does. I feel needy now and I hate the way I feel. Is he trying to leave but afraid to tell me? Sadly women dating women are the SAME thing. I have been with my bf for a year and I am his first girlfriend, he has dated girls but never boyfriend and girlfriend. And when I go over for my day with him he just wants to be with his friends. Like really, he baby just be with me. Then everytime we have a lil argument he breaks up with me.

Also, he gets so jealous of my past. Always bringing it up and asking how many guys I have been with. Another thing when I make him mad he tells me the meanest things to hurt me on purpose, why? He says he loves me and I know he does but, why hurt me on purpose and why break up with me so much? OH and i just turned Wow i wish i would of read this before my bf and me broke up.

I honestly made most of those mistakes and now its too late but I really like your advice. What dose it mean when you were not togther.

I'm not very good at understanding women lol. Why do you do it? It's mainly because they aren't really that into the guy I find the more you talk to a guy when you don't really like him the more mixed signals you send out and he persues you more so cutting it off solves the problem.

Yeah fair enough, but I don't present mixed signals and neither do I blow hot and cold with a person. Also I haven't pursued this girl at all, unless creating small talk with a girl and giving her a compliment after she gave me one counts as pursuing, then I guess I'm guilty, but I do see what you mean. So a woman who blows hot, cold and then hot isn't interested? Yeah of course, I like this girl but if she isn't interested that's cool, I'll just keep it civil with her and that will be it.

It's no skin off my nose, I'm pretty used to rejection. She could just have difficulty regulating her emotions? I don't think it means she doesn't like you. I found it odd, we saw each other made some small talk, she was giggling a lot, she paid me a compliment, I paid her a compliment, I broke some ice with her, I saw her a little while later she gave me the biggest smile and then I saw her a few hours later and she seemed to avoid me and ignore me, it wasn't until I asked her if she was okay did we make some small talk and she seemed warm to me.

I'm starting to think she's in two minds about her, I hope I haven't come across as a creepy or something. It doesn't sound like you did anything wrong.. I wouldn't know, I don't think complimenting someone on the fact that I think they have an amazing smile is insulting, though I could be wrong! I just don't know. I know she's not very comfortable around me and is shy around me.

Her interactions with other people is a lot better than what I get. But I'm not going to beat myself up about it, I'll just keep things civil, it's just hard to read her that's all. You sound very sweet. I'm sure she was just upset about something else or feeling shy.

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Jennifer has never felt more loved and taken care of than with Alex. He is her biggest fan. He supports and encourages her every day.

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dating a man who blows hot and cold

They are not emotionally mature enough to sustain a loving adult state relationship with you or anyone. Mind you this was long distance and he hardly had time to have a meaning full conversation with me. He gets bored easily - especially when the fun is over.

dating a man who blows hot and cold

Trust me, the way I act has caused the same confusion for guys I have talked to.

dating a man who blows hot and cold

I never met him as his girlfriend should I go this time when I go to Italy? After Miami, the pair headed even further south to the Bahamas. You get the picture. Treden break up with him! Ph I dated this guy for about three month.