Wheelchair Sex Love & Intimacy After Spinal Cord Injury

Dating Paraplegic Girls

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Newly dating a quadriplegic by electricguy Feb 21, For wheelchair users with spinal cord injury this positive sexual representation not only promotes wheelchair sex. It was completely frustrating at first, but I think part of the healing process was learning the ways my body works differently after my accident. Aaron, I understand the challenge for you; but the biggest advice i could give is to be comfortable with yourself and who you are and others around you will see all the amazing qualities that you have to offer. Scented candles, rose petals, lingerie, nudity, enticement, foreplay, wheelchairs and other apparatus can hold new use and appreciation for both sexes. Keep moving, keep pushing and keep trying things.

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The wheelchair becomes nothing more than a prop. Spinal Cord Injury Sexuality. It was a big scary step leaving my family. Her physical challenges are part of who she is, and she would not be the same incredible person without having had to overcome so many challenges in her life. DJ 82 1, Urinary infections and treatment by vintage Mar 11,

He was on top and had spread my legs wide at first, pulling them together around him as he came in at me. He was lunging harder and harder. We moved together in furious rhythm. Reaching orgasm at the same time both collapsing exhausted. We lay laughing together for a long time talking about the act we had so passionately committed. Jeff went to the bathroom to wash off.

I waited for him to finish and had him to bring me a towel for my wheelchair. I put the towel in the chair and slid over into it. My paralyzed legs followed. Wrapping the towel around my midsection I put my feet in their rests. Naked except for the towel, I too washed off and returned to bed where we both slept. Knowing soon we both would have to prepare for work. This morning was almost as exciting as last night.

Jeff had a change of clothes in his car which he got while I was bathing. While he showered I went about getting ready as usual. I chose my outfit for the day: Red skirt and black top, jet-black pantyhose, and the same black pumps from the night before.

I retrieved my braces and heels from the front room using my wheelchair. As I was returning to the bedroom Jeff came in. His hair wet and oh so sexy fresh from the shower. I had to keep reminding myself Jeff was actually new to dating paraplegic girls. I had to take things slowly. I needed to get my panties and pantyhose on as I was still naked except for the towel. He picked me up from the wheelchair like the night before and laid me on the bed.

He actually picked up the clothes I laid out and began dressing me! First the panties which he slid one foot at a time through them and pulled them up my legs. I laid back, and let him lift my bottom while his free hand pulled the panties around my waist. He took the black pantyhose, and lifting one foot at a time, pulled each stocking onto my feet and legs, and up to my thighs where he had to lift my bottom again. He smoothed my legs out and picked up the brace for my left leg.

He placed my thin leg into its brace and fastened the straps in reverse order from the night before. Lifting my foot a little, he wiggled it into the high heel pump and attached it to the brace. Then he ask me if I could walk using only one leg brace. Thinking it might turn him on to see me try I wanted to see if I could. Jeff retrieved my crutches from the front room and I lowered my leg onto the floor.

The knee clicked into its locked position. I balanced on the one stiff leg at first. Noticing with the three inch heel, my shorter right leg dangled about five inches above the floor. So I extended the crutches, and pulled my body forward letting my right leg swing freely. Pulling my left behind it dragged a little more than before on the floor. My firm naked breasts jiggled as I struggled around the bedroom. Dating paraplegic girls does have its perks.

I could actually do this I thought. Walking on one brace only if I wanted, leaving my shorter leg hanging. I got Jeff to take another one of my high heels without the brace attachment made into it and slide it over my right foot. This almost made up the difference to the floor. Making the toe of the shoe point downward and barely touching the floor.

I crutched around for a few minutes. Leaning on my one stiff braced leg and dragging the other limp leg behind. I let the toe of the pump slide on the floor. Like the night before I could see Jeff becoming aroused at the sight of my frail paralyzed legs. I realized he was attracted not only to me but my disability as well.

I became excited at the idea. I could be comfortable about my handicap knowing Jeff liked dating paraplegic girls. He was more than okay with my spinal cord injury. After crutching around a bit I went back to the bed and pulled myself bottom first onto it. I pulled my right leg to my chest and took off the smaller pump revealing my foot in only the pantyhose. I took the other leg brace and laid it under my leg. Jeff helped me with the straps and put my other pump on.

The one with the build-up on the bottom and attached it to the brace. He also helped me on with my skirt while I put my bra and blouse on.

Jeff thoroughly enjoyed his first time dating paraplegic girls. Let him see me pull my thin lifeless legs around without the braces crutches or the wheelchair. I just got in an accident about a year ago and I gotta say dating has been so hard…but I just wanna say I absolutely adore your story — please friend me on Facebook removed — and I write as well. Anyways, have a great day: Hi Glen, for members and visitors security we do not allow the posting of personal contact info on publically visible areas of our website.

Our forum is a safe place to ask questions and talk to people about issues. Feel free to join, introduce yourself and ask questions there. There are plenty of men who would date a handicapped lady.

Eventually she dumped me. I have regained hope after reading this that not all guys are shallow. I have always wondered what people went through when it came to paraplegic and well…non lol would date.

I would like to hear accounts of male paraplegics dating abled women. My boyfriend was in an accident two months ago and is a T6 complete. This story was really amazing for me to read. Thanks for the insperational story! Kc, could you tell me how you coped with it and by T6 complete, what do you mean?

Would love to hear more about this. Aaron, from what I understand, dont trust my word for it, but by complete I have been told that his spinal cord was completley severed with no voluntry motor function past the injury site. But I am only starting to fully understand what it means. How have i coped with it? At the moment he is still going through PT in the hospital, the real challenge will be when he gets back home and into an every-day routine. What I try and do is stay as positive and optimistic as possible.

He is the most amazing man I have ever met and his accident would never change how he makes me feel. I am able to get through day-by-day but I have to keep in mind that his struggles are going to exceed my own and I am going to stick by him. I think for my case, I was born a paraplegic. And have simply grown up doing things a different way. My challenge has now been to hopefully meet someone who will accept me for who i am as a person. And look past my physical disability. Aaron, I understand the challenge for you; but the biggest advice i could give is to be comfortable with yourself and who you are and others around you will see all the amazing qualities that you have to offer.

For me personally, my boyfriends personality and characeristics are what I love. I truly believe the chair actually helps people get noticed more. I have DMD its a common type of dystrophy males get, but I have beat the odds to become the man I am. Ive dated a woman without a disability before and had a lot of female interest and attention. Its your attitude and courage if you are shy that gets you noticed.

I am married to a wonderful lady who is a polio survivor and who wears legbraces. She is smart, highly intellectual, loving and compassionate, and to me she is the world. She has accomplished many things in her life in spite of incredible hardships, andwhen I look at all of these things and the bravery with which she goes through her life my love for her and my admiration for her goes through the roof. Her disability is not in the least a problem as far as I am concerned, and to me she is the the most beautiful sexiest and most desirable woman in the world.

Her physical challenges are part of who she is, and she would not be the same incredible person without having had to overcome so many challenges in her life. I can only talk for myself but am sure that a physical disability is not a problem where real love is concerned. A man is marrying the person and the intellect and nothing can overcome these things. Thank you Kristi for that very beautiful and inspirational story.

You are a perfect pair. Your adoration for your wife and her being able to overcome so many challenges, proves you are a very great guy, and an awesome husband. Thank you Science of Mind for your very kind comments.

My wife does much to lead by example in helping other disabled ladies to overcome shyness and other problems and go out and face the world with new strength. She is a psychologist by training which gives her the tools to enable her to know how to talk to people. The fact that she wears skirts and is not shy to show her braces gives conviction to her words, and advice coming from someone who is also disabled helps others to realise that everything is possible. My wife grew up in dire poverty and was raised by her grand parents who could not afford a wheelchair for her so she used to slide on the floor on a pillow to get about.

One cannot imagine how degrading this must have been for a young girl she got polio at age 18 months She only walked for the first time when she was in her 20,s and did all of her schooling and university on scholarships. Her story is incredible and good material for a movie, I am so proud of her. I have written a book about her.

One of the things which may be of encouragement to the readers is the fact that after she graduated from university she gave a year of her life to living in a tiny villiage in the jungles of Northern Colombia, where with the help of local people she built a school, drilled and built a water well, got funding from different sources for schoool supplies and trained local people to become teachers so that when she left they would be able to keep the school going.

She used to have to catch her own fish to eat and developed her swimming skills in the process. To her nothing is impossible and the sky is the limit.

Hi — my name is Pam. I walked for 9 years of my life. Ever since the hip surgery, I was not able to walk on my own. I walked with canadian crutches for many year in my parents home.

When I moved out on my own, I was pretty much in the chair. Things were more accessible to me. Living up north in Ft, Wayne Indiana was getting to be very challenging.

A friend from where I worked asked me to share expenses on a road trip to Orlando, Fl. It was at the point the LORD was letting me know to move to warmer climate. It was a big scary step leaving my family. Life is so much easier here. Being in a wheelchair and not that mobile, I am a heavy woman. I have learned there is many ways to love and so much that I could give to love a man, if that someone could love me unconditionally. It is a lonely life that I have.

I am blessed though that I have Jesus Christ and one day HE will lead me to someone that will love me. I hope this inspired someone. Lords Blessing to anyone who reads this. Hi Pam, I read your comment with interest. I hope that you dont mind if I give you some suggestions which I have found have helped me in my life. It seems to me that all of us on this planet are given different challenges in our lives.

Some are physical, some are emotional etc but in the end these are there to test us and in overcoming them they make us stronger. I am also a firm believer that we are all guided in our lives, and things happen for a reason. What she has done is to accept the ravages of polio as her starting point in life, and has tried to build from there.

She has tried to think beyond this and by doing this she has elevated herself by study and getting very involved in helping other disabled people who are worse off than she is. This has also given her the realisation that in comparison with others she is very lucky, and this has encouraged her very much in her life. So dont despair, go on with your life, and you will see that the right person will come along when this is meant to happen.

I am a para, My wife crossed over in and she was a wonderful woman. She stood by me when I was shot, went through PT, and never thought of me as disabled.

I am very active, I love to travel, I live alone and love life. God has blessed me in so many ways I can only be happy. I would like to meet a girl para. It gets lonely living alone. I have a lot of friends but I want that someone special in my life. Everything works if you get my drift. My legs are too weak for me to walk so I use a power chair. I have tried so many dating sites and came up empty. I did date a para once and it was so good to be with someone who got me, and I got her to.

It was great and would have grown into something more but I moved and as they say life must go on. I am a prankster and love life. I never meet a stranger. Sorry some of you have seen or dealt with that. A complete is a full break of the spinal cord. A forum where parents give advice on starting a family, raising a child and managing your family after sustaining a spinal cord injury.

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DJ 22 Equipment innovations, Jerusalem conference by vintage Dec 10, I have a T10 i just wanted to know if it possible i still can ejaculate i still gbut i geet hard by thought touch n feel but i get frustrated cause i do not cum can i is there a way wat can i do to help.

Hi Jason, yes it is fairly likely you will still be able to ejaculate. Please read the article for tips on how you may achieve that. In the article Viagra and a vibrator was mentioned. Are there any other drugs that might keep him hard?

Also, is there a special vibrator to use? We have tried some but the ones we used only kept him hard while directly touching the head.

Is there anything special to do to keep him in the mood? This prevents the blood from draining out so quickly. It is used when the nerves or blood vessels in the penis do not work normally. It is a substance that is found in your body. It helps keep blood vessels open and your blood flowing. It can cause severe side effects so please consult your doctor before use.

Me and my boyfriend have been dating a year and a half, and in February he was shot, it damaged his spinal cord and deflated his right lung. The doctor said he still has a chance of walking again with lots of physical therapy. I love him so much and I want to spend the rest of my life with him.

He is a T9 incomplete injury, is there still a chance he can produce children, and even walk again? He uses Cialis and it works great, but are there any other treatments for his ED? Something other than the injection, he hates needles..

Cialis is usually the last resort — only prescribed when pumps, viagra, etc are not successful — but there are inflatable inserts as explained in the article. As for fathering children I suggest you consult his doctor or a few fertility clinics sooner rather than later. My husband was in a motorbike accident on the 24th Nov , TL1 complete. He has had spinal fusion operation and was sent home on the 24th December with outpatient physio only we were told because he can transfer from bed to wheelchair without much assistance that he doesnt need to go to rehab.

He is unable to get an erection through touch or visualisation. What can we try? Also what are thoughts on colostomy bags? We are 1 year married dating for 8 years with an 18 month old son, im a student and we are not on any sort of medical aid so the next rehab option would be private and costs half a million rand i was quoted this amount for 3 months rehab which is outright unaffordable.

Any advice is appreciated as this is new and hard on us all…thanks in advance. I feel those of us in relationships know it goes far far beyond something so simplistic: If you read more comments on the site, and the article above, you will read of many experiences that do not involve sex solely in a chair. Hi my name is Scott I have complete L4toL10 injury almost two years now have feeling in thighs and few other spots on my legs I have a colostomy and have to catheter.

I have no feeling in my buttocks or my penis. Does anybody think Viagra would work or not and if it did would I be able to ejaculate. I think intimate relationships are about so much more than just the act of penetration. Throw the mindset out the window that traditional able bodied sex is the only way to go and experiment with each other to see what gives each of you pleasure.

And, it can be so much better than it was before. Communicate with each other openly and honestly and try some new romantic things. Remember, the largest sex organ in the body is your brain so remind her of visual stimulation, oils, romance, etc. I think both of you will be surprised how great things are. Those are all of the qualities that I think makes anyone sexy no matter if they are able bodied not.

As an extremely sexual woman who has had it every which way and everywhere and anywhere I could I was excited to try the new found territory, and there has been no disappointment. In the last year I have been able to explore my secret sexual desires with him and he is more than willing which makes it all the better. I do think it takes a special person to be intimate with a person in a chair or someone with a disability and I am more than happy to be that person.

It says a lot about myself and my character as well. I wanted to share this for the people out there who are insecure about their sexual integrity or sex life in general.

You just need to find the right person. They are out there, and they are very turned on by the chair. I just realized that this may sound a bit self serving. It turns me on more than him pleasing me. I want to do whatever I can to make him feel amazing and pleasured.

Not just toys either, anything to make it hot!! Bottom line, the only sexual limitations are in your mind. You have the power to have a healthy, sensual, sexy, playful, romantic sex life! Your website is very important and useful for a person with disability, their family and professionals. I just wants to understand that who can two persons on wheel chair do sex with each other without the help of any other person? Howdy, name is Larry.

I found this website while browsing for information regarding paralysis. I have recently met this beautiful woman on a dating site and she has partial use of her legs due to a broken back from a fall some yrs ago. She has an abdominal catheter and get around impressively well on her own. Also, is it normal for some one with paralysis to have depression. All I want to do is take away all her pain because when she smiles my world brightens up. Hi my name is tj im a recently paralyzed quad at c4 incomplete I think.

Hi i had an accident and im paralyzed t10, happily married and want to start trying for a baby, I wanted some peoples personal expirences and how they concived. I am in love with the most thoughtful, gorgeous, considerate, generous, passionate and sexy man I have ever met.

And, to my continual amazement, he loves me, too. Thank you for this site! Similar sentiments have been written in previous comments, but I think they are important and bear repeating: We met online, began writing to each other, then chatting on the phone, then the chats became hour nightly talks. The night before we planned to meet in person for the first time, he sent me a text expressing fear that I might not like him as soon as I saw him in his wheelchair.

He had told me about it during the time we were writing, and in subsequent conversation he had shared stories that gave me an idea of what his daily life is like. So I was surprised by his last-minute apprehension. I told him that there was no way he was going to get out of our date! Seeing him in person that first time was even better than I thought it was going to be. I had prepared myself to wait a while before kissing him, wanting the anticipation to build.

Apparently, the weeks of talking were all the waiting I could handle, because that preparation went right out the window and I kissed him before he had a chance to say anything other than hello.

I own a sex swing store and have always been a proponent of sex swings as a way to assist with sex for everyone. Inspired by this article, I have made a coupon code for Streetsie readers. Use streetsie10 at checkout at http: Hi I have a bf we been together for 9 years now an he has a sci due to being shot in the neck an it shattered his t1t2 an he his feel stops at his mid stomach an he is complete…… He had this injury for 2 years now is it possible for us to have sex an will he ever walk???

Hello im 23 and im a t-9 complete injury. Im getting married in to my wife and im waiting till marriage for sex. I was wondering if viagra or extenze or any pills like that would give someone with my type of injury an erection and if so would it be as stiff as normal or not and how long does it normally last and was curious about the same thing with pumps. My situation is this: Since coming home, I have become a roommate, nanny, and sometimes caregiver.

I have ceased feeling like a wife. He is not capable of feeling below his shoulders and is not capable of erections without assistance. For the past years intimacy has been almost non existent and I am like you where I am a sexual person and still require that from my relationship. His feelings of inadequacy and fear have been hard to overcome. We tried counselling and have been going for over a year. I do not require intercourse to be happy — only now are we starting very slowly to become intimate again.

But in my opinion an open relationship will only tear you both apart more. He will feel more inadequate, and you will feel guilty. In my opinion try counselling before making any decisions. I get a stimulated erection very easily, I also take Viagra which can add additional longevity sometimes a full erection for several hours or more.

More especially newly injured readers. Well I can assure everyone that Viagra is available completely free on prescription from the NHS for anyone with ED especially those with a severe spinal injury. I sit them down and explain the female genitalia with a heavy emphasis on Clit The g-spot is a construct of the male mind with the express purpose of enhancing HIS experience while mitigating guilt associated with the female partner not getting near as much out of penetration as the male does.

I love a vibrator in any way shape or form! An orbital sander minus the sandpaper of course can get me off in about 30 seconds for a construction worker themed quickie. The Hitachi Magic Wand is perhaps the strongest vibrator out there. I just recently got an Oster Swedish Massager which I now believe is a must have! Hello my good ppl! I am a very busy and active 29 year old C-4 C-5 sci quadraplegic. I was a virgin engaged to my fiance when I was in a car accident that paralyzed me mid chest down late She is the best women I have ever known.

I have been and still am regaining more feeling even after 3 years. God has been good to me. Therapy is great with helping bring strength and more sensations.

Keep moving, keep pushing and keep trying things. It gets better and better as my feeling grows. It started off no feeling but all mental and visual.

It makes it 10 times better actually being with my soul mate. I have only had 1 ejaculating episode, but we are beating the odds. And so can all of you. Hello does anyone know of project walk. Or any physical therapy etc. In need personal opinions thanks. My bf in quad.

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This morning was almost dating someone with a spinal cord injury exciting as last night. Quadriplegia sex with catheters after spinal cord injury Usually high level quadriplegics cannot go without a catheter for long. He smoothed my legs out and picked up the brace for my left leg. The bulge in his pants told me he was erect with pleasure as well. We made a meeting place and parted ways for the afternoon.