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He could barely look at me and he clearly was not as tall as he said. While sitting at the bar the waitress comes over to ask if we needed anything. A trip that I would be completely on my own, finding my way around a city that I had never been to before. So, instead I am the lucky girl that gets to go on dates to try to find that special someone. Once we were back home Ink was back to being that nice guy he was at first but not as nice. Here are a few:

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If he only thinks about himself and does things that are self-serving but not good for your relationship, then accept the fact that it will not work. He asked if I had on blue underwear. Because I was helping my friend an hour away from the city……. I met Smartie while working out and we started chatting. Previously married and talked very offensively to and about his ex-wife. If he doesn't want to have these conversations with you, then he's not emotionally ready for a long-term relationship. Slowly I laid off the texting and calls with Bartender and he eventually went two weeks without talking to me.

By a text that was supposedly for someone else. I immediately called him and asked him about this text and he acted really confused and worried. I told Justin Bobby to never call me again and hung up the phone. My wonderful friend came over that night with pizza and a movie to make me feel better.

My birthday was coming up and my parents planned this awesome trip that Justin Bobby was supposed to go on. This is also when I decided to rescue my dog Cooper. Right before my trip Justin Bobby reached out to me. He said he really missed me and wanted to see me again. We met up, talked it out and I thought we were going to start dating again. Guys, Justin Bobby is the reason why girls think guys only want one thing. Justin Bobby wanted that one thing but he asked if he could take me to dinner for it, buy me a new purse, new shoes or a watch.

This was not what I wanted clearly. I wanted him to tell me he loved me after that 6-month period. Eventually, Justin Bobby found some other poor girl and I only say poor girl because I found out after he had been dating her for longer than him and I, he cheated on her. He actually told me this himself. Of course, while he was deployed he tried to reach out to me and say he would buy me things again if I sent him pictures. At this point all of my niceness had worn off because of him and other wonderful men.

When he came home he asked me out to dinner. I told him I would think about it and almost picked a day a time only to blow him off last minute. Truthfully, I wanted him to feel the burn that he caused me. He was not happy at all with this burn and I soon blocked him after that.

Justin Bobby taught me to trust my gut and always remember that 3-month rule. He also eventually in the long run taught me again to stand up for myself and not let someone physically take advantage of me. Sometimes blind dates can go really bad but sometimes they teach you more about yourself. For some odd reason we always want someone around the holidays. These times are tests to show you that you can actually get through things without having someone help you or do it for you. Some of you may have read about my first Solo Trip here on my blog.

That trip was what pushed me to be more independent. I am no longer scared to try something new without someone else doing it before me.

I am willing to make new friends and go places alone. Being in relationships and dating has taught me this also. I became dependent on wanting to do whatever they wanted and would bend just to hopefully satisfy them. When I got out of those relationships I felt so lost in my own life because I changed it to fit into theirs.

This is when I realized I needed to be ok with being alone and I needed to be more independent. I have accomplished so much in the last few years that I never thought I would alone. But, those changes came and I conquered them all by myself.

If I can do it, anyone can. Not every guy will end up on my blog. The ones that will not be on here are guys that I really feel in love with, hard and deep. These guys will always hold a special place in my heart that I will keep and cherish forever. The relationships I had with them do not compare to the guys I write about on my blog. They were my favorite, biggest lessons and hardest break ups I have ever gone through in my life. I want to keep those ones to myself so I can always look back and remember what I learned from them.

These I will carry into new relationships because they helped me grow into who I am today. So, I will tell you what I learned from them, just not about them. Sometimes we have amazing relationships with people, but they come to an end. It could be mutual or one person deciding what is best for them. In my favorite relationships the biggest thing I learned was communication. Lots of people get in relationships thinking they can change people.

Do not avoid telling them something because they might get mad. Having your friends there for you during hard times can be good but then they can also give you the worst advice. Always trust your gut because at the end of the day you are the one that has to live with the decision you made for yourself.

My favorite relationships were the best and worst times in my life. We all have seasons of growth and I grew more during those relationships than any of these crappy dates. I realized I should never settle just to make someone else happy. Some people have it really easy. So, instead I am the lucky girl that gets to go on dates to try to find that special someone. I met Smartie while working out and we started chatting.

We exchanged numbers and started texting throughout the week. At first everything was normal, easy going conversation but then everything moved really fast, within a day or two. Fast as in he wanted me to help him pick out furniture for his new apartment, a puppy and moving in together eventually. This threw up red flags immediately and I slowly started to back off.

I eventually learned from previous girls he had dated that it was normal for him to do. He would occasionally pop back up on social media asking me how I was doing, I would respond and it would of course end in him asking me on a date while I ignored the request. Cuddles was introduced to me by my boss. He was very polite and we had great conversation. We made plans to get drinks over the Halloween weekend. The day before Mr. Cuddles sent me a picture of him dressed up in his Halloween costume he planned to wear.

Bright shorty shorts and a way too small hot pink shirt with a blonde wig. I immediately was turned off by his appearance. Although it was hilarious, I was no longer attracted to Mr. Saturday came and he told me that I would just come to his house before we went out for drinks with his friends.

He also told me I could stay the night with him. This is where Mr. Cuddles gets his name! Sunday morning, I received a text from Mr. Cuddles telling me how hung over he was and that he wished I was in his bed with him to….. I met this guy at a BBQ restaurant and we instantly clicked. Maybe it was the poor lighting and the fact that I had just worked a double shift at the end of an already hour work week.

He instantly texted me and then proceeded to keep texting me the entire night. I was trying really hard this time to not be so judgmental as I usually am. So, I would let a few of his messages slide by judge free. He also repeatedly asked if I wanted to go for a ride in his truck that night. These texts all came within about 2 hours of meeting him and they were each a novel. My responses were short and sweet since he never once asked me about myself. He took it upon himself to make plans for us Sunday and I told him I would let him know.

I ignored this text. He then texted me a couple of hours later asking me if I was ready to hang out. I ignored this text message also. Remember, I met this guy the night before, talked for an hour in person and then about 3 hours via text messages that were mostly him telling me about himself.

A few more hours went by and I got the message: I thought, he got the hint. Tuesday morning, I received a text from a childhood friend asking if I was ok. I told him yes, of course I was. First of all, how did this guy even know that I was friends with these people because I had no social media at the time. Secondly, we were NOT dating, we had met for an hour, texted for 3 and that was all!! I told my friend the whole story of how me met and the conversations we had and he instantly said this guy sounded super creepy.

My friend let his cousin know the situation so she never responded to him about me. The next day came and guess what?! I met Hoover while waiting on him and his parents.

Once they left I noticed Hoover had left his number on his receipt. I thought he was cute but really wanted to find out how old he was. Curiosity got the best of me so I texted him. Hoover was a smooth talker but he was almost 10 years younger than me.

He wanted to meet up sometime during the week for dinner. I started to agree until I found out he lived 3 hours away. I slowly became uninterested in Hoover within a day when he started telling me that he could see himself with me for a long time and you never know what happens when you meet that special someone.

I stopped responding to Hoover and this guy got the hint and did not continue to text me. My lovely friend decided to set me up with J.

I got a text one morning from her saying she had a nice guy I needed to meet. Of course, I gave in and let her give my number to him.

She did at least send me a picture of him beforehand so I could put a face with a name. Over my years of dating I have this tendency to judge guys very easily on their texts. I have been trying very hard to change this. Within the same day of letting my friend give my number out, I received a text from a new number. This text had no name attached to it, just: Neutron was not the best at texting but I gave him the benefit of the doubt and continued the conversation.

We planned our date for almost a week out. I did not hear from him the following day, again gave him the benefit of the doubt, so I text him the next day asking about his day. The conversation again went nowhere. The next day, while at a party with my lovely friend, I told her about the text. Shortly after, I got a somewhat rude text from J. I responded nicely which was rare with the thoughts in my head at this point. Also, I received texts from J. Neutron about how drunk he was getting.

The day of the date finally came and I waited around all day to hear from J. I thought maybe he would text me to confirm our date or at least try to start some sort of conversation since we had so little during the week. Remember this date was planned almost a week ago. This one really got the hint and I never heard from him again.

These were over a period of three years. There are some moments in your life when someone says something to you that will always stay in your mind.

They can be encouraging words, or words that will hurt you. These words can change the way you think about yourself or other people. I remember meeting him, talking to him and enjoying the whole night. About a week or so later I saw Prince A again, and he ended up asking me on a date. I was over the moon that this guy was at least a little bit interested in me.

Interested enough to ask me out. Before he took me home that night, he asked me on a second date. Prince A pulled out all the stops and took me on the best dates I have probably ever been on. He knew how to wow a woman. We formed a relationship and in time people ask you how did you meet. But those words have stayed with me for years. I have always compared myself to other girls and wanted to be the best. I need to own the qualities I was given, and the things I have conquered and fought for all by myself.

Everyone stands out in their own way. Try going out with three guys, with the same name in the same week! Porthos Porthos was one of the three musketeers that was fond of fashionable clothes and keen on making a fortune for himself. I went on a dinner date with a man that shared similar traits as Porthos , he liked to talk about money, traveling and having nice things. Hence, why I thought Porthos was the perfect name for him.

I was meeting Porthos at a bar downtown and before I could even get out of the car he was insulting me from across the street. There were a few red flags in our conversation beforehand but for some reason I still showed up. We sat down and started the normal 1st date conversation.

He did the tough guy act, trying to impress me with all he had to offer and whenever I would try to tell him about myself he would cut me off or insult me. Once we finished our drinks I thought we were done with the date. But, he asked me to get dinner with him across the street. I was starving, so I agreed. At dinner, the insults continued. Finally, he was ready to go home.

He walked me to my car and I gave him a hug goodbye. One date down and two more to go! Aramis Aranis was a handsome young man who hesitated between his religious calling and his fondness for women and scheming. My second Musketeer fit this description.

During our first date he brought up religious beliefs. While sitting at dinner he asked where I stood on religion. I told him that I attend church on Sundays and pray regularly. This is NOT a first date conversation topic. Aranis and I finished our dinner and I told him I needed to get home even though it was still early in the night. I did not agree to a second date with Aranis. Athos Athos, the last Musketeer had never recovered from his marriage and sought solace in wine.

Athos was very handsome, kind and quiet. Our first date we went to my favorite taco place for dinner. I noticed I did most of the talking but always would ask him questions about himself. I thought the date was going pretty well so once it was over I suggested we go out again. I wanted to give Athos another chance since I thought he was nervous and that was the reason for his lack of talking. On the second date we met at a restaurant closer to his house.

While waiting for our table I wanted to test Athos to see if he would start the conversation. We stood there waiting for our table in silence, not speaking a single word to each other. We finally sat down and I started the conversation. Usually during dates, I hate the awkward silence and always try to fill it.

This time I let the awkward silence sit there waiting for Athos to talk. Finally, our date was over and I went home. The Three Musketeers were three completely different types of guys. These guys will meet a woman that fits their personality. These dates taught me that even a free drink and dinner are not worth being insulted the entire time. There is always that one guy that you go back to time and time again. The one that always knows the right things to say.

The one that keeps stringing you along. I had that one guy on and off for more than a couple of years. He was tall, handsome, great smile, tattoos and so much fun to be around.

We would date other people but whenever it ended we always found each other. Little did I know that the guy I thought he was, was someone completely opposite.

I believed everything he said because I had no reason not to. When my boyfriend and I broke up, Two Faced was over that week making me dinner. He also came over to hang out with my parents.

I thought we had a good thing going on and we had great sex! Slowly I would notice small red flags or weird behaviors from Two Faced.

I thought with all the time we were spending together he was only dating me. It was out of town and I had already paid for both of us to stay in a house for the whole weekend.

I gave him the benefit of the doubt and still tried to hang on to whatever was there between us. One night, Two Faced invited me out to have drinks with him and some friends. While sitting at the bar the waitress comes over to ask if we needed anything. And, right in front of me Two Faced asked for her phone number. Trying not to be agitated, I let it go.

He was all over me of course on our way to the next bar. Once we got to the bar he bought me a drink and then disappeared. I found out that those two girls were best friends and they each had recently found out he was sleeping with both of them. Still trying to remain cool, I decided to call it a night and his brother walked me to my car. Two Faced called me that night and the next day. He said all the right things to get me right back into his web of lies.

Shortly after this episode, Two Faced invited me out once again for drinks. This time I decided to bring a friend with me in case he pulled the same crap. We arrive at the bar that everyone in this town goes to on a Friday and Saturday night.

Everyone knows exactly who Two Faced is in this bar. As soon as I walk in I spot him talking to another girl. My friend walks over and says hi and he walks over to hug and kiss me. And then, he disappears. I see him back with that same girl by the bar all over her and finally walk over to him. He was paying his bar tab getting ready to leave with this girl in his arms. I asked him if he was really going to leave with this girl in front of me after he invited me out.

My friend and I left and went home. The next day we packed a bag and headed to the beach for the weekend to get away from everything. I was so upset for trusting this guy so many times. At this point I told him that I wanted to be strictly friends and nothing more than that. He agreed and actually showed up this time. He had broken me down to be this vulnerable girl that just wanted his attention and would do anything to get it. I began finding out more of his lies.

Lies that went back to when I first met him all the way until the last time I had seen him. Finding out all the lies was like having my heart broken all over again but worse. I just sat there in awe of everything I was learning. After finding out all of these horrible things, I realized that the guy I thought I knew all these years was not that guy at all.

He was a completely different person that lived in a world of lies. He had so many lies that he actually began to believe them. He would manipulate every girl he came in contact with and pit every girl against each other. He was controlling and psychotic to be able to do this to so many women.

Two Faced is no longer in my life and never will be. I hope that people will see this story and know that there are guys out there just like this but in hiding. Yet, he mentally and physically hurts women and has been for years. My goal is for more people to stand up for themselves and never allow a person to have that much control over you. If a guy is ok with doing what Two Faced did to me, then you do not need him in your life.

He is not the right guy. Two Faced might have broken me down but in the long run he made me stronger. He made me believe in myself and learn not to take crap from anyone. When we go through a break up, we usually turn to our friends. Sometimes, we find friends in the most unlikely ways. In my years of dating, I have met many people and some of those people have become my amazing friends.

More women today should support each other instead of hating them because of a guy. Usually, the root of every girl-drama steams from a guy.

Ladies, never let that guy win over friends! Here are some ways you can support other women around you: My friends have picked me up when I was down and I am beyond thankful for them. When you find friends like these you hang on to them, not the guy that keeps breaking your heart. Sometimes I have these super ballsy moments where I see a cute guy and give them my number. He was sweet, funny and had an accent from Louisiana. So, I will call him Louisiana. We ended up going out to lunch the very next day.

Our first date was great. I felt very comfortable talking to him and being with him. We hung out a few times but I noticed that he was always negative about things and mean to other people. He was never negative or mean towards me. Louisiana came over for dinner one night and things got hot. A few days later Louisiana drunk dialed me asking to come pick him up from a bar. I ended up picking him up and letting him stay the night at my house.

I set a few ground rules for him staying the night. These were my rules mostly because of my annoyance: I listed each rule and then rolled over. Louisiana finally passed out after an hour of drunk mumbling.

I pretended to be asleep. Then, the snoring began. I tried waking him up multiple times. Finally, I got up and went and slept in my spare room. The next morning, I had to get ready for work and then drive him back to his hotel. He reached out to me twice and I felt awful about leaving him hanging. I decided to meet Louisiana for dinner one night and I was very honest with him. We were talking about the reason why I began going to church and he said he understood where I was coming from.

I told him that maybe these were the reasons he was so negative and mean to other people. We had a very deep conversation that night. Louisiana still tried to be more than friends with me but I was not having it. He moved back home soon after. Occasionally I would hear from him and how I changed his life. I found out that he began going to church and was no longer negative and mean to other people. He said I helped him realize what he needed to fix in his life and how to become a better person.

Louisiana ended up sending me a handwritten card and very thoughtful gift for Christmas that year. Meeting Louisiana taught me that you need to be honest. It also made me feel good, knowing I helped him become a better person. Also, I learned that ghosting people is wrong and its always better to be upfront and honest with everyone. Women are considered targets because of how we act and dress.

In a mall, a parking lot, at a bar, women can become victims at any time. So, I signed up to take a Self Defense Class! I had been wanting to take a self-defense class for a while now and one popped up on my Instagram recently.

Instantly, I signed myself and a friend up for the class. This class was awesome and totally worth it. Here are a few pictures from our class: She only kicked me a little! Women should never have to feel powerless. Of course, we never want to be in that type of position but taking some precautions will help you if you are.

Have the power to help yourself! Going on a mini vacation to Florida should be fun, right? Sunshine and a condo right on the beach. My trip to Florida seemed like it would be awesome. I had been dating this guy for a couple of months and he seemed great.

I met him at my work and instantly thought he was gorgeous. They are my weakness! I worked at a gym and he would come in and I would always find an excuse to talk to him. He finally got the hint and asked if I would like to go to dinner one night. I, of course, said yes immediately and went to dinner with him the next night. He was sweet, caring and made me feel like he really liked me. I brushed off a lot of red flags with Ink. Here are some red flags I ignored:.

In April, Ink asked me to go with him on a trip to Florida to attend the military memorial ball. I instantly said yes because I liked being with him and thought it would be an amazing opportunity to experience more of his life and background.

I picked out a dress and started working out more to look good for the weekend in Florida. We started our drive and made it to Atlanta for the night.

I noticed on the drive there that Ink was getting annoyed that I wanted to sleep the whole time. We arrived in Florida and agreed to get dinner.

At dinner Ink thought it was ok to insult me in front of his friends by making fun of me. At least I thought it was right down the street.

It was over a mile away and he wanted us to walk. It was also raining. A few guys would come over and talk to me which would then make Ink come over and acknowledge me to get them to leave. I met a few of his friends and they all told me how awesome Ink was and how lucky I was to be with him.

The next day was the ball. The entire day felt rushed but when I finally got to put on my dress for the ball I felt gorgeous. When we arrived at the ball, I was left to stand alone while Ink talked with his friends.

We left the ball, changed and headed to a bar that everyone was going to. At this point I was annoyed for being ignored most of the weekend. I was trying to have fun and mingle with all of these people I met while Ink was ignoring me. I kept noticing this one girl all weekend all over Ink and staring at me. His friends that were staying with us in the condo came out and I asked them to take me back.

Back at the condo I started looking for a plane ticket so I could leave as soon as possible. This is when I noticed I left my ID and credit card at the bar.

I had no way of getting home and away from Ink. Ink came back and half apologized for what happened. The next morning, we started our hour drive back… in silence.

Once we were back home Ink was back to being that nice guy he was at first but not as nice. He decided he was going to move back to Colorado but would come back and visit.

We still talked after he left for a little. I finally decided I was completely done with Ink when he wanted me to drive to another state to come see him. I stopped talking to him and ignoring his phone calls and texts. Soon after, I went on a weekend trip with my best friend. During the trip I got the longest, meanest voicemail from Ink. The lessons learned from Ink were that you can figure someone out usually within 3 months of dating them.

Also, if you see the red flags, do not ignore them. But what do you do when he sticks two long fingers deep into the crevices of his mouth, and produces a shrill infernal noise that could have you turning into a shade of red that could put the tomatoes in your salad to shame?

But then again, we have the clowns. Aargh, stick your Jimmy Choo up his rear end and limp out of the date if you have to. But wait until the check comes through before making your judgments. How to be a good date every time ]. Now all said and done, all screw ups and happy thoughts apart, what do you feel?

Would you be happy to see this man again? You may have gone right with all the pointers here with your date, but you may still find the spark missing at times. On the other hand, you may have just got off a date with the perfect wrong man.

That man who makes your heart woozy and your southern regions buzzy. Tips to have a good relationship ]. Sometimes, even the wrong guy can seem perfect at first. Liked what you just read? Are you dating the wrong guy? Is your man getting on your nerves with any of these 10 red flag activities?

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Would you be happy to see this man again? I asked him if he was really going to leave with this girl in front of me after he erong me out. The one thing I did not plan was meeting dating wrong guy smoking hot marine while dating wrong guy dinner at a bar. And, right in front of introduction titles for dating sites Two Faced asked for her phone number. I noticed on the drive there that Ink was getting annoyed that I wanted to sleep the whole time. Your Guide to Better Love and Relationships Even if plans got messed up, I still had an amazing time just being with him.