The 6 Things You Need to Know in Order to Let Your Ex Go
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I have read numerous articles about letting go and moving on…numerous times during the past four breakups in the past four years that I have had on and off with one man. I believe that your article was the inspiration and blessing I needed to finally move on. Thank you so very much for your help!
This article sounds good but im in this relationship where for 3 yeard have been hell ive tried over n over again to make it work we have broke up every week for three years why is it so hard to let go when he has degraded me cheated on me and simply abuse me mentally n verbally.
I have caught him with females I never look for trouble it always present itself to me like I always say wat we do in the dark comes to light. I want to move on but I just find myself wanting him to change n its just a joke. My wife divorced me 2 years ago, after about 2 years of separation. We have 2 beautiful teenage daughters. I blame myself entirely for the divorce, due to an addiction I struggled with. We tried to reconcile, recently went on a weekend getaway.
I feel so much guilt every day…almost unbearable at times. Trying to let her go…really trying, but dreams every night, etc. Keeping background as short as possible. Met someone a little over 3yrs ago. Within just a few months fell in love with him and thought that he was the one I would spend the rest of my life with. He was very closed with his emotions but I always felt that he loved me just as much. Shortly after moving in together 6months into the relationship we began having problems.
We began to fight regularly about everything and eventually I asked him to move out. We were apart a month and then got back together. Six months ago I asked him to leave for the last time. We spoke frequently but could never work through things this time. After 3months of being apart I started to date someone new. He found out and was very very angry. Shortly after he called me wanted to come over and talk. I was scared and still very hurt so I told him no.
I basically at that point did the same thing. Told him I still loved him and wanted to try again. He was angry and said no. So for the last couple months we have both continued to see other people, yet we do talk on occassion. We got together about a month or so ago and he told me that their was no chance for us unless I quit seeing this other man.
I broke it off with him a week later. But he has continued to see this other woman. I know at this point I need to move on and just let him go. I wish I could let go.
She was all I ever wanted. All the burns meant I was strong enough to fulfill the vows I wholeheartedly meant the day we wed. Any way I weigh it out, this is the right way.
This is a whole new ballgame. I keep thinking that the more distance between us, the easier it will get. Do not let a person have so much control over the very thing that keeps you stable, your mind.
You are not worthless to women, everyone falls, dust yourself off and meditate and keep it moving. Ask God for strength as well. For that, I am grateful. What IS a healthy relationship? Focus on doing the hard work to better yourself and aim to create the type of future you want.
I chose to move on. The more the relationship met needs and fantasies perfectly the harder it is to let go. In a way it is a dual task, there are two things to let go of, the good, and then the bad. That is what makes it so hard, and creates the suffering, the fact of having to think through to contradictory set of feelings, and two different stories about the relationship.
Conflicting emotions cause anxiety, but this is even worse, because there is also the need to hold on and believe in both. I find that I miss the bad as much as the good, I had no problem accepting that there was both. He broke up with me, and while it seemed to be good idea, because I was suffering too from the bad things in the relationship, I had no intention of letting go just yet.
There is a kind of religiosity about it. Neither of us wanted to, but we felt we had no choice. We fit together beautifully.
Neither of us have ever connected in such beautiful, deep ways with anyone before. I have two kids and he has one, all of which love us together. It seems perfect right? We both know that down the road this issue would pose some major problems for both of us.
He agrees with my beliefs and can see himself down the road on the same path I am, but neither of us want him to do anything that doesnt come from deep in his heart. Basically I have to be true to what I believe and he has to decide what he believes.
And we both feel to do that we have to go seperate ways. The aweful part is that we both are terribly sad and miss eachother so so much! We love eachother and can see ourselves growing old together! How do I let go when I still feel hope for us? How do I get out of this sad lonely place?
I am going thru a breakup right now which is more complicated than complicated could be. And now, I am wondering about the many things I could have done differently had i been brave enough to do it.
I miss him so much and i wish i could have my cake and eat it too. The other guy is the one that got away. And i guess i just have to live with that fact starting today. Thank you for this article and to all those who have commented. Loved the article and some of the posts by readers. He was happily married with children and I was happily single and content.
When I went to several crisises in my life within a short period of time I chose him to lean on. He was just the person I needed to have in my life during my time of need. We never met in person. I just communicated with him via e-mail. He was a safe outlet and I considered him expendable although I thoroughly enjoyed using him as a confidant, quasi-therapist and friend without benefits except flirting.
I started falling for him and told him so. I was in anquish and missed the relationship so I prayed about and wanted to establish a long-term friendship with him. I was never dishonest with him and he was never dishonest with him. I knew we could never be anything more than friends. I got bored one day and got on Facebook and started sending messages to people who were acquaintances and associates of acquaintances and so on.
I probably sent messages to about twenty people. One of the people I sent a message too was my friends wife. I complimented him and her and thought it was a nice, cordial message. I was shocked and blown away by his response. I apologized and asked for forgiveness and cried a bucket of tears. I read many, many articles about the subject of getting over a relationship and consulted friends too. I knew that the relationship was over but I did not want to let it go.
Even after accepting the fact that the end had come suddenly, abruptly and by surprise I knew that there was nothing that could be done to fix things or make them right. I knew that I had no control over the situation and all I could do was pray. Pray I did and cry I did. I cried so much that it affected my health and body, but in a positive way. My blood pressure actually went down to normal levels.
My energy level increased. I was thinking clearly and making plans for my future. For someone who was only an online friend I missed him profusely and had grown more attached to him emotionally than I intended or anticipated. A friend heard about my plight and came over to comfort me. The enormity of my loss hit me like a tornado.
My heart was broken into a million pieces. Even though it was not my choice to let go of the relatioship, I had to let it go and become a part of my past. Instead of having a relationship all I had to cherish was a memory. Then I realized that beating myself up would serve no useful purpose. What happened had happened, period. When I fell, I fell hard. When I hurt, it was painful. When I cried, it was cleansing. When I got up, I no longer needed a crutch. Some people have wind beneath their wings.
I had tears to lift me up. Some people had a friend to pull them up in their time of need. I had a friend to cut me loose in my time of need and that was exactly what I needed. He was not meant to be a friend, a companion or even a guide, but he served his purpose. I was in a relationship with my boyfriend for nearly 5 years. The first year we were together we traveled to so many places, talked for hours on the phone or over coffee in some little hole in the wall place and enjoyed every moment we had.
I ached when he was out of my sight. He was fresh out of a divorce and so was I. I felt like I had been awakened and had truly not lived life until we met. The passion we had and could have now but… was something I have never experienced. Then after a tragic event that completely changed our lives occured, he became someone I did not recongize.
I mourned for that former life and the happiness I felt. I now had to share him between so many other people and I was no longer a priority maybe 5 or 6 if I think about it. He was angry and withdrawn. I have not been the same for the last year but we continued to be together somewhat because of my fear of being completely alone.
We would spend a few days a week together and I would fall off the cliff again emotionally when he left. I wanted him all the time but he was not capable of doing that. This week I received a letter from him breaking up with me.
All of those dreams of kids and marriage are gone. My family is not supportive and I barely have any contact with them and now, without him, I wonder how I will get through. We talked every day on the phone and emailed many times a day. I know this will be the hardest thing to let go of but I have no other option. This article helped me a lot. I will be printing it off and reading it again and again.
I was in a relationship for only 4 months. I really connected with this guy, we have almost everything in common even in the intimacy. We met in Facebook and we saw each other 5 times in this 4 months.
In my part, I gave him everything, I meant everything even money. Sending pictures and videos. He is separated from his wife a year ago and now he is going to signed to papers to divorce.
I was separated from my husband. I did stuff that I never did before with him. Overall everything was beautiful. He mentioned he did not want to commit but he seems to connect with me in so many levels that he told me many times he loves me and he sees himself having a life with me. That I was everything he look in a woman. So I planned to move to NC. The last time we meet we had a great time as always but I felt something was wrong. When I told him I love you he just avoided me with other questions.
For this Christmas, I paid his airlines ticket to see his ill dad in P. Also, he went to his 20 anniversary High School reunion. After that, we texted, called…. Suddenly, his behavior change after two days in P. He broke her heart once before. Now, he broke mine. I felt complete deception and anger towards him.
So I sent him an email asking for all the money back. Now we are in bad terms. I feel so betrayed, hurt and used by him. How can I let go a person that I love so deeply?
He called me , we shared everything even the darkest secrets. I need to let go….. I think I was loving a person who was never real. I got divorced on 11 Sept In , my wife moved out and was in another relationship. My ex-wife and I then tried to mend our marriage cos her ex-boyfriend moved and they decided to break up. OpenHeart Surgery, I am sorry for your pain. You want to know how to achieve closure with both of these relationships.
You can start by reading another article I wrote on the topic. Letting go of a relationship is hard work, and most people are never able to truly let go of their past relationships. For example I can tell you how to pole vault.
This article came up in a google search I was doing to try to find ways for my friend to find closure with his ex-wife.
They divorced nearly 9 years ago after a 15 year relationship. During that time there was hurt, and resentment, but after the divorce they remained close and had a casual relationship from time to time. After meeting him, we became close and he confided inme that he was thinking about trying to make things work with her. He did try to date her again. How do I help him close this door befre he gets hurt, again? Or do I let it ride its course and help him pick up the pieces?
Can this really work? I would appreciate any advice. I originally found this article in when it was first written. At the time, I thought it captured my situation perfectly. It is now four years later and it still holds true. I have been with my now ex for nine years and the last four years have been really difficult.
We lived together for eight years then sold our house and planned to go our seperate ways. I even started a formal eviction process, but we would reconcile so I would drop the cases. After we moved into our own homes, I dated a few people but kept comparing them to the ex.
About six months after splitting up, we got back together still lived in seperate houses tho. I thought maybe we could make it work this time, and we were together for a year. The entire time he has had issues with alcohol and he treated my daughter like she was a burden and in his way. My friends and family say he was jealous of her and they are probably right. I ended up telling him over the phone that it was over once and for all and to stay away from us, but he refuses to accept it.
He continues to call, email, IM but I have not responded. The last time we broke up I kept in contact with him and compared everyone to him and nobody measured up. This time I feel like if I truly am going to move on, I need to break all connection to him. As I read all the posts from others situations, I fear I may never get over him. I think one problem many of us have is that we tend to forget the issues and how we feel in those bad times.
We remember the good times and then we miss the person terribly. I have taken notes over the years to remind myself of how I felt during the low times and I read them when I feel weak and want to contact the ex. One of the most helpful things in this article is that my ex would have been everything I wanted if he could have been.
He still says he is working on himself to be what I want, stop drinking, etc. I have been waiting so many years for that to happen because I wanted it to happen, but I have to accept that it will not happen.
I only hope I can continue to be strong, move on and eventually find that spark with someone else. Even though it has pretty much ruined my life, I am happy for my ex girlfriend Melissa.
Even though the effects of her breaking my heart have left me unemployed, alone, and hopeless, it makes me feel better to know she is happy! I would have easily gave my life to save yours.
I guess I have. I met the love of my life when I was just 17 years old. We were together for a little over 2 years. Our problem was timing. We were young and others were making decisions about our futures. We were pulled apart literally and never able to end the relationship on our own.
My family had different views for my future and I felt powerless to fight them at the time. We had no closure. I was given the option to go college far away or not at all.
Letters he sent to me were never given to me this was prior to email and cell phones…I learned years later of the missing letters. I moved on with him constantly in my thoughts, but we were now s of miles apart. I believed he moved on. I married and have two children. My husband is a wonderful person who loves me so much. He is so good to me.
I wish so much I could love him as he deserves. I have had contact with my ex. After 14 years, we communicated via email. I learned he has struggled just as I have over the years. He is married with three children. He said his wife has asked him in the past if he will ever love her as much as me.
It seems we are both in the same place emotionally, but we also know we must do what is right for our spouses and children. But you are trying to simplify things. It was on my 40th birthday. I am a very athletic man.
I had feared being 40 for a few years before that terrible day happened. She was 27 when she left me. I lost my job of 25 years, and my beach apartment, my hair turned gray, I lost my confidence, and my power of attraction. I had been with many women before her. They just had a baby. I am certain I will be alone the rest of my life.
I just thought this comment was so sad and someone not giving themselves enough credit. You will find love again but only if you believe yourself you will.
Thats what is so amazing about life, it surprizes you , sometimes bad and sometimes good. Sounds like u are due for a good surprize and it will happen just believe in it! And I did not recover. I have lost my confidence completely. I feel worthless to women. In fact, I have no value to anyone anymore.
I guess my broken heart, and the depression that followed, was what caused me to lose my job of 25 years. And being unemployed has proven to be fatal. I have been unable to find a steady job. So, I have fall deeper into hopelessness every day. Not one woman on the planet, is interested in me anymore. I have been alone for over 4 years now. I have not been on even one date. Sometimes a broken heart CAN kill you. It is too late for me now. Erik I just wanted to say I relate very well to what you wrote.
I too am 44 and my wonderful wife left me many months ago she was ten years younger than myself. In some ways knowing that you lost someone that was so perfect for you because of something you would have given up in a heart beat to save your marriage is a killer and I relive it over and over again. I know the pain though as well as anyone that has ever lived and loved. It is a burning rock in your stomach that has total recall of the past and in absolute vividness.
All I can say is today I can hold it back. A year ago not even close. I thought I was going to have to get plastic surgery since the bags under my eyes were so huge. The real killer is since there is nothing we can do about our ex, dating at our age really is a whole new game. And this my friend as you may know, even if we do find someone new, we compare them to our ex as if we have some giant check off list.
I truly believe I will never love another woman as much as I loved my ex and I sometimes miss her so much I scream at god swinging my fist in the air, because he has never given me a reason for why I was at the place I was in my life when it was so important to change my bad habits. I may never love again like I did with my ex. I may never realize the dreams and aspirations I had when I was with my ex having children and growing old with her. And I may never truly get over her in a sense that I see I am better off without her, but ending it all is not the answer pal.
You and I have to find a way to love ourselves again no matter what it takes. You may never have your ex again, but there is a reason to live and live you must.
Take care and let her go. One last thing Erik, keeping tabs on her such as knowing she found someone else, married that someone else and then had children with that someone else is only contributing to and prolonging your pain. I am sure you kept up to date with what she was doing because you were hopeful to get other information such as does she miss you, does her current relationship make her wish she had given you another chance becasue now she sees what you two had together etc.
I think I know this about you because I too have those thoughts. The only connection I have to her today is her brother, whom has been a good freind but honestly talking with him about anything makes it hurt even more or at the very least makes me relive some things I should have already let go of.
Sorry you had to. I can only imagine and I have what that feels like. To Erik and Gordon- I just want to say something about your comments about being men in your 4os and not being able to attract women like you once did. I am 34 and just ended a relationship with a man who is He took care of himself by eating basically well and getting just a moderate amount of exercise and I found myself very attracted to his age. He even gained like 15 pounds while we dated and I thought his body was beautiful.
He was calmer and more loving than the younger men I had dated, a better lover… the lists of his good qualities is very long and I never found those qualitites with younger men. I felt like he was a real man. The only thing that came with his age that was a negative factor and the reason we are not together now was that he had more painful experiences with women in his past which he was hung up on and would not let go of and therefore put a wall between us that I could not get through.
If you are willing to work on yourself and let go of your past pain, to truly open to love again, your age will be something a woman will appreciate.
I am so glad I found this in my time of need. I am a 34 year old male and fell in love with an amazing 24 year old girl. The chemistry was amazing and that grew into a one year relationship filled with arguments and dissapointments.
But I would do it all over again. I understand we were on different pages, she wanted to explore the world and I wanted to settle down. This is when the problems started. She smoked pot alot and it bothered me. Eventually I blew up and yelled at her. She left me and it has been the hardest thing I have ever had to deal with. I see her often through our circle of friends and work and wish I could just move and be free of her.
I have been in such pain since she left because I tried everything to make her happy. I was a good man to her and she still walked away.
I guess this is why it hurts so bad.. This post is not to give you a word of comfort….. In July, August of we where great, and by mid October things had already deteriorated to a point of almost no return. Maybe thats why she hugged me crying her heart out when she was breaking up with me, saying I was a great guy, etc. And She still left me…. When I got home, I also cried that night. Although I see clearly that this relationship would never ever work in the long run, I became very depressed, I struggle to work, to go to the gym, to do even the simplest things.
Sometimes I get nightmares with her and wake up in the middle of the night…. I have two girls who where blatantly happy when knowing I was single again. Both have asked me out on dates. I keep postponing or making excuses to decline those dates because I dont feel well.. I dont feel like even setting up a foot outside my house.
I dont want to talk or contact with anyone. Weekends are now passed at home doing nothing in silence. I recall great moments we spent together….
I will never have those moments again with her. I think of her beeing now dont know if she is or not with other men…and it hurts. Those moments are usually at night in workdays. I run from that heartache and those kinds of thoughts I described above by taking anti-depressants and sleeping it away.
Now comes the really twisted part. I know that I should ask for help with a mental health professional, because these feelings are not normal and are crippling me. I dont want the pain to go away. I want to suffer. I want for this to cripple me to the point of no return, of no recovery possible.
I havent got a clue why I want these things, but I do. I also wish bad things to happen to her, I want her life to be filled with pain, loneliness and depression until the end of her days.
Yes you do need a mental health professional. First you realize your relationship was not a good one and you are better off. And to top it off you wish her harm now. Seems that temper may have contributed a great deal to this relationship ending. Try losing someone who you really cared about, made a commitment to and planned on spending the rest of your life with. Try losing a wife after many years that you loved more than anyone you have ever met and that you had found in her a person that completed you in ways you had never imagined possible.
If you are lucky, you will have many more of these fly by night relationships before you meet the woman you are supposed to be with. And then hope you dont screw that up! Pain is pain I know, but coming from where I am coming from and my past breakups, you have no clue what it is like to lose a true soul mate. The guilt, the grief, the constant wishing you had done things differently and could be given a second chance.
Iamges: dating your sisters ex
How did you know it was the right decision?
I have read all the article and all the comments that followed.
Accusing me of everything!! Well it stages of a christian dating relationship out that he moved in with the other woman and her 18 month old daughter. I dont feel like even setting up a foot outside my house. I Want My Ex Back. I went to my husband and asked for his forgiveness for all my shortcomings as a wife. And that he wants a simple home and youur life. Then one night dating your sisters ex little over a year ago, my best friend and I went to a bar.
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