Don’t Date Girls With Borderline Personality Disorder
And you have your answers. Use your phone to record conversations and intimate moments. For the rest of us mere mortals, we middle-class, average men, and especially young men, all we seem to want is someone reasonably attractive not necessarily above our league or anything who truly cares about us. My last boyfriend admired me far more for my intelligence, my intellectual interest and drive, than any other quality I had. And the reverse is true, females get turned of by males who are less intelligent than themselves, unless the man has other masculine assets that offset the end result.
This doesn't mean that a man cannot love, but men are less inclined to it than a woman, because men have less "feminine energy" than women. Maybe we are incompatible our sex drives are very different. It amazes me how guys hold other guys in high esteem if they are completely emotionally detached from human interaction. You are incorrect about your male friends. Dont reject your man.
She called me crying five minutes later apologizing, as if she was simultaneously trying her best to piss me off but was also terrified that I would abandon her. I gritted my teeth through the date, did not attempt anything physical, and never called her again. If you run into a broad with a few of these symptoms, watch out.
BPD girls live in an unfortunate state of arrested development, as if you took a perpetually hormonal 12 year old and gave it the body and power of an adult. This is an especially dangerous combination because attractive girls, no matter how crazy, are essentially allowed to get away with anything in our society.
The combination of impunity and impulsiveness makes them prime targets to throw out a false rape accusation, destroy your property, stalk you, and attempt to ruin your life from the inside out.
She loves unprotected sex, gambling, and dangerous thrill-seeking. She lacks a filter before saying something or make a decision.
Even a superlatively attractive girl is not worth the mental anguish her presence will cause. You have to fight this, but if you insist on putting yourself through this torment, you need to remember the following Ds:. Video tape if necessary. Use your phone to record conversations and intimate moments. I was like your wife for most of my marriage.
I hope my husband didnt cheat on me, he said he never did and I told him that made me feel really sad for him that he went all those years without sex or even a blowjob. I was very uptight sexually. I didnt want to be but I had so many hangups. At one point he just got a life without me and I missed him so much.
I started talking about my hangups and looking online for help. Well he started trying to find mt G-Spot to help me enjoy sex more which really pissed me off at first shoving his fingers in me like that but DAMN!!!
Now I pounce on him and he is freaking loving it. I love to tease the hell out of him now then give him a blowjob. Try to find ways to help your wife enjoy sex. Dont let her miss out on her sensuality, help her find it. Thats the husbands job. Women with no self esteem are gullible.
Your wife knows better. Here is the thing.. Wow cassie, that sucks. It is truly depressing to read some of these comments. No one disagrees with that. How long should a person remain in an abusive relationship?
Neglect of a child is abuse and so it is the same for a spouse. Yes, I have to intervene nearly everyday freaking bitch!! I have been selecting a prostitute in Nevada because after 27 years of my wife being either cold or disinterested I want some passion or at least faked passion on the chicks part. I no longer care. I am sorry that you now have a std and I might get one to but the whore that I have selected is really hot and my wife at one time was just as hot but now is pounds.
I am tired of navigating the muffin top. Probably gave yourself herpes there im afraid, inadvertently. Now I wonder why he was visiting prostitutes..
You have no one to blame here but yourself for your outcome. I am male and some of the things I read online from men who want to take up arms and wage war against their wives for refusing to suck them off is disturbing. I pray none of them are fathers of daughters, but sadly many are. I got through undergrad, received a masters degree and am finishing my doctorate and I would never marry a women if she did not want to perform oral sex.
I would just chalk it up to sexual incompatibility. Look at you as a perfect example. Do you tell that to the women you date? If you do tell them, can you share honestly if you dare which are the types that accept this prerequisite? How many intelligent, emotionally and mentally balanced women who love and value themselves agree to have their worthiness to be in your life reduced to their willingness to suck your dick?
All your suppisitions sound more like your own issues. Nowhere did I ever say a woman was not worthy to me if she did not perform oral sex on me. What if I said that I would not marry a woman if she did not cook? Being as though I do not know how to cook, i would like like to be with someone who could. I am not very handy, however, I do everything thatni can to make enough money so that if my significant other needs her car fixed, I can afford a competent mechanic.
Again if a woman I was interested in did not like performimg oral sex, being that I love to receive and do not mind giving, why waste both our time? She could go out and find a man whom receiving oral sex is not a priority and she could be happy.
If this makes me shallow in your opinion, so be it. I am sure you would never want to be in a relationship with me nor i with you. I would also not want to be with someone who is judgmental which you appear to be.
I have encountered this issue before. I told my then girlfriend that I believed that she woild happier with someome else. She thanked me for my honesty and we parted on good terms. She is now happily married and I attended the wedding. Again no fault on either side. I can so appreciate this guys honesty. Im a woman and I would be pretty miserable if I was married to a man who didnt enjoy giving me oral sex.
Even if I loved him I couldnt marry him because I would feel undesireable to him if he found my vagina disgusting. I too would not give my husband oral sex ,it became such an unhappy depressing issue for my husband that I had to seriously think about why I wouldnt do it. I realized I felt like a whore doing oral sex because it seemed so dirty. Then I had a light bulb moment!!
What if my husband felt licking my flower was dirty and disgusting and made him feel bad about himself giving me pleasure. Needless to say, I talked with him about this and came to see that its because porn and prostitutes do this so I believed only bad girls did that. I hjave changed my perspective completely since this realization. I love my husband,every inch of him is beautiful and I want to give him pleasure. Now I can say after our sincere and heartfelt talks about my issues…I love giving him oral sex.
He was so happy the first time dureing a blowjob that he said out loud, I think Im gonna cry. It was so fucken cute. Im not good at it but he loves it and encourages me dureing it and helps finish it off. Ive never seen him so happy LOL. Education and intelligence have nothing to do with it. Every normal human has sexual desires, and if that person spends their life being denied fulfillment of those desires, they will never be happy.
And if that means only marrying some one who will suck you off, then so be it. There are plenty of women willing to do it. Why settle for less? Emma-K its his choice who he decides to marry, and he wants to enjoy oral sex for the rest of his life, like ALL OF US here, so why shouldnt he only marry a woman who is willing to do that???
If you dont want to do it yourself, i suggest you only marry a guy who doesnt want it! Dears Making sex in different ways always depend on love between the two and oral is not issue but it depends how you two motivate each other and fufill this natural need not self created by two.
Sex is nature not a creation and managing it in manner is like a dream which brings pleasure but if you feel it nightmare dream then its thinking fault. I am dead sure. Remember the revolution ladies?? I think we have to take one thing in perspective; did she used to give you oral? Damn near a deal breaker.
Old post I know. For the record, I too am nearing completion of my doctoral degree final defense of my dissertation , and former school principal and teacher for 20 years, neither a frat boy nor mysogynistic, and a virgin before marriage.
I am so sick and tired of being played by my wife of 21 years. Im afraid i might develop an aversion to the Bible. When i did get oral it was maybe once a year when she felt like i deserved it or it was my birthday.
Nowadays when we have sex, which happens once a week, she wants it done and over with. She will jack me off to help, but only because she knows sex will be over quicker. So she wants me to treat her like im having sex with a prostitute?
Wham, bam thank you mam? I know she still has that sensuality inside her, but dammit I think her over-spiritualizing sex is the root of our problems. For the past few nights I gave up our bed and sleeping in another room so I can watch porn and Jack off all I want. We just live together. I no longer believe in abstaining from sex before marriage. My advice to young people who place importance on sex would be to live together first. How else would you know their view on the matter?
If I had to do it over again, I would make sure to marry a woman who values our relationship above all else and into receiving and giving sexual pleasure. But what could I have done? Give her an ultimatium?
Give me oral sex or we separate? Whereas, withholding a source of pleasure is much more painful to me. Problem was my wife was very sexual kissing, petting when we were dating. I assumed i was set for a blissful marriage. I still remember how much oral we were giving each other on our honeymoon. Aside from oral sex, she also refuses to entertain sexual talk. I love to talk about sex fantasies with her but she views it as sinful. She wants me hot and ready so I need less help and avoid having sinful thoughts and therefore get the deed done asap.
I am really looking forward to sex robots ot even VR sex. I was talking like I was the big shot and my way or the highway. So after 3 days of sulking, I gave in and apologized. It helps that we share the same basic spiritual beliefs. So in the end it is not worth it for me to sulk and demand certain sexual favors from her. Outside of those frustrations, i realize that she does love me, just not the way I expect.
Same goes for oral. Your denial of your husband is saying a lot more to him than you think. You and I should heve listened to the signals before we married women like this. I hear the story often about the husband or boyfriend willing to lick the cesspool between their legs and they wont do their wifely duties..
Really makes me mad. She use to do it. I feel bad I wanna leave her over this. I give it to her and she enjoys its. Idk what to do. Is this a real reason to leave my wife???? But I almost like head as much as sex. I go to work found a great home for her. Buy her all the cloths and shoes she wants.
I have been married for 36 years. My wife and I did not have sex before we were married. I had a little trouble giving my wife oral pleasure at first and she objected to me trying at first. After I gave her oral pleasure for the first time she had her greatest orgasm and has liked receiving oral sex ever since.
I gave her oral sex for the first time because I thought she should experience it and if she liked it I could put up with the mental discomfort. I realized after her first oral pleasure that I really liked the taste and scent of her cum. I now enjoy giving her oral pleasure as much as she enjoys receiving it. My wife has never given me oral pleasure.
She has never tried. It really hurts because I now realize that I will never experience a blow job from my wife. It is hard not to wonder how a person could love someone and not want to please them.
She is a great wife and a great mother but we are not lovers. I feel an emptyness that only my wife can fill. I feel so sorry for you guys that give o pleasure to your wives, and gladly so without ever recieving it again.
What happens I wonder? I too would give bj to hubby whenever at a heart beat, and do so. I actually love his tightening muscles and moans…. I have hang ups and asking him to reciprocate. Perhaps the EGO is too much of a load. My husband and I are 32 and have been married for 6yrs and have had a very good sex life average 4xWeel.
Usually I give him BJ to start the sex and when he is ready I stop and we have sex. Now When I do it and stop so we can have sex he seems really dissaponted. He give me this look like ya I guess when can we can just have sex now. Or he will insist that I keep going. We used to have very open communication about or sex life and now if I say one little thing he flips out. Tonight I wanted to have sex and he just just kept watching TV. I ask him what was up and he said its not fare because he told me he has been wanted a BJ to completion for a month now and I still haven done it.
I honestly would mind doing it if he would just show some appreciation for the rest of me and not seem like have regular sex is something he will put up with. I feel like he is super lucky that we have sex at least for days a a week. Well now we do it everyonce and a while. I thought that once I let up off that he would be happy cause it was basically the same argument.
What am I suppose to d I give an inch Nd he takes a mile nothing is ever good enough. Can someone please help? I can appreciate your situation. Sex is a very intimate subject and closely tied to our most basic inner core of our self-esteem. I hope you are able to speak to your husband about your feelings of wanting to be closer to him, how having intercourse makes you feel this way, having him perform on you, fill in the blank.
I think if you phrase it that … about your desire to be closer to him then you might break down the walls of his defenses. Wow, what an asshole. And you need to be with another man who loves getting sucked, but will always be there for your needs no matter what you fancy. A real man reciprocates, never takes and walks away. Thats a coward, and you dont need cowards in your life. You just have a horrible man.
Just give a BJ to completion twice a week or more if he can handle it. Make it romantic for you. After his shower light some candles massage his lower half and give him oral.
Do this for a few months and help him get it out of his system. He is loving it so much thats why he wants that all the time. He can lie back and be completely nurtured by you and it seems he is desperately needing that from you right now, It doesnt mean your sex life will always be that way just right now he is needing to completely recieve from you and and you can always masterbate in front of him first before you blow him.
Make it all about him for a while itll work out dont worry. Let him feel worshipped by you LOL. I feel sorry for any person who thinks of oral sex as dirty or imoral.
It is a beautiful part of sex, as it was meant to be. A full sex life between two people is what holds the relationship together. Very few men would look elsewhere for sex when they have a woman who keeps herself in shape and makes sure her man is well taken care of.
Same goes for the men in the relationship. I take care of her often and enjoy it but would like it back. The she last did a full bj in when we were in college at Texas Tech in my dorm room. Sean, I have been their, done that, and will not do it again. Bro, in order for you mantain your marriage vows, this should be the last item that you ever read regarding sex on the internet temptation, anger, and resentment are growing within you.
The end of your marriage is closer that you think. Imagine if can, what sex acts did Eve perform on Adam, in order to make Adam decide to disobey God. Same exact story as you my friend, married 9 years and 3 kids and my wife never even touched my penis. I mean never did she touch it or saw me naked in light. I please her oral sex every time we have sex. She never once touched my penis. Same exact feelings and resentment as you described. Guess what, I resent the fact that even though I am very uncomfortable receiving or giving oral sex my husband is punishing me with coldness and hatefulness, lack of intimacy, almost like living with the enemy.
SO guys this is a two way street………. And now ur mad he resents it. Ur the only wife he got. And ur gonna deny him. U are a messed up wife. He should leave you. OK, this is old as shit, but I have to say in response to your message…. You are telling us that the idea of spending a few minutes with his penis in your mouth causes you such discomfort and mental anguish that he should not ever expect it or even mention it. It proves to me that she loves me and cares about pleasing me.
I am so tired of the bullshit excuses that women give. If you loved me you would do it. Men, if you ever get that response, here is what you say. Got problems in the past related to this…give them up. When you married me you were supposed to leave that all behind.
What if I said my ex used to make me take out the trash and fix the car, and vacuum, and clean the bathroom and I hated doing it all, would that absolve me of ever having to do it again? Though many things are cited as the number 1 cause of divorce, the most likely true cause beneath all others is the following as said by a marriage counselor:. And to be quite frank, women are most often guilty of this.
The main reason is that they take on roles and responsibilities that investment in their marriages eventually comes last. And it is so deeply felt that it feels like a betrayal.
She has never given me a BJ or licked my balls or even just kissed the shaft of my penis. She thinks oral sex is disgusting.. I have tried to talk to her about it, tried to ask her why she wont do it for me and I have told her how much it would mean to me.
Surely the same should apply to the good of the marriage? I have also become to resent my wife over the years because of this. I have heard that a prostate massage can be really exciting…. Do you have any suggestions? I would suggest that you say once he goes down on you then you will go down on him. He knows you will keep your part of the bargain.
You women better listen close to these threads: I could not agree more with the statement above. If you cared a lot, you would give more than you receive. At best he will have affairs on you, and you will deserve it or he will just leave you? He may very well end up hating your guts over time for not loving and caring for him? Men are easier to take care of than a flea bitten stray mutt dog! Rub behind our ears a little and tell us you love us and we are fine!
Suck us off once a week and we will think you hung the moon! I have a LOT in common with Sean. My last full blow job was in We married in In the intervening two years, she would enthusiastically go down on me for foreplay but never to completion as she did pre But after we married, the times she went down on me for foreplay slowly dwindled away to never.
I cannot remember the last time she went down on me. She practices star fish sex. I would almost be okay going down on her and foregoing everything else for it. It makes me feel rejected and unwanted.
Many many many woman are very aware of the porn men watch and why they get prostitutes. Therefore many woman see blowjobs as something that whores do. Therefore it greatly affects our self esteem and feelings of feminity to do something that we associate as whoreish and slutty and we dont want our husbands to think that way about us. We want our husbands to see us as lovely and wholesome good woman. Porn has really messed up womans self esttem. It took really thinking about this and talking with my husband about this to heal from that and be able to love and desire my husbands body and feel ok about myself for doing so.
Bring up this subject with your wife. I would love mine to be like a whole. I talked to lots of women about this and they all say the same thing. They know how important head is to a man. That makes them great women. I need to get it repaired. A man that wants a blow job nearly every man will only be happy when he gets blow jobs. He wants to be loved and swallowed. See it like this. Hopefully you came to this site to ask that question and want an honest answer.
Well you rank much lower than one that does. Why would you want to? This site asks a question are you a bad wife. You have clearly found the answers and if you refuse to accept this from the men who are the judge a woman cannot tell you you are a good wife any more than a baby can decide you are a bad parent because you give them horrible medicine. The best judge of a good wife is a husband. If you listen to all this and still say that the husbands are wrong then please out your head in a bucket because the world around you means nothing.
And another thing, why would you want your man to fantasize over someone else? I told my husband I would be his dirty little whore in the bedroom as long as I get all the snuggling time I need after. Half an hour a day of snuggling and kissing is satisfying for me and makes me feel so loved.
He agreed and said he loves snuggling and kissing me. Today he walked out to the living room naked ,I was on the computer. I got up and started feeling him up, knelt down and gave him a long slow sucking then finished him on the bed. It was so erotic and actually incredibly romantic.
This blowjob stuff is new to me and Im finding the more I do it the more I enjoy it and Ive gotten better at it. He no longer has to help me finish it, I get the job done. He needs to be lieing down on his side relaxed and able to thrust his hips in order to cum. Im learning all these little intimate things about my man I would have never known before. Wives…dont deprive your husbands. You are all they have for the rest of their lives to experience pleasure and deep intimate love with.
Dont cheat him and yourself of this erotic pleasure. Start slow like I did with just kissing and licking it. He will love it. After some time you will feel more confident and comfortable and can suck him. I always go slowly. When he needs faster I let him thrust carefully in my mouth so I dont get tired and have to stop.
Just start doing something…anything with his neglected penis. I feel so so badly now thinking of all those years I neglected my man. He is so happy and feels so loved by me now. It melts my heart. Their is nothing dirty or disgusting about it at all. I cant hardly believe how much I enjoy iy and I use to be dead set against it.
Just start giving it kisses and you will get comfortable with it I promise. You want your wife to not participate in your sex life. Pleasure, intimacy and connection have nothing to do with it. My wife gave everybody she dated blowjobs, even me and she was great at it. I heard about how good she was before we started dating. I fell in love with her and we got married.
If you love him give him a blowjob without him asking and I bet life will get better. They like degradation and power. They just get meaner and more aggressive. I would like for this site to take a survey. How many wives discontinued giving head after they got married? H Waters, Me and my wife been together for 23 years… infidelity from both parties.
Even after I thought we have worked it out I still perform oral on her, no question asked… I ask she refuse. Hey I do not push the issue, but it is frustrating knowing that if you i. She refuse to kiss and perform oral. So I am the jerk? Based on many years of asking husbands about this I would say that most wife only suck dick when they are drunk or special occasions.
I am about to divorce my wife because after many years I cant stand to have sex with her anymore. She has let herself go, wont suck it , and I am tired of fighting off her muffin top.. I have not stopped giving my husband head after we got married.. Here boys, have at this one. A freebie for you to thumbs down. But marriage gives you that right is that it?. I think anyone male or female who thinks they have a right to receive oral sex from their partner is hopelessly out of touch.
In anticipation of your thumbs down, envision a middle finger sticking up with a long nail painted red. I agree with this. There is a woman out there for every man and a man for every woman so go find the right one not the one that just does whatever it takes to get you to marry her then change her tune. The pseudo-feminist has spoken! If you do not like the penis, you do not like the man. It is that simple.
The biological need for intercourse is related to hormones that makes you feel good. The biological need for intercourse in order to get pregnant, is nothing more then to get the child.
There is no liking the man at all. They loath the man for that too. So the act of pleasing your spouse, often comes down to the act of giving oral sex to the man, is often refused by women that hate men. They are either hard core damaged men haters, or closed lesbians. Do not get involved in their hate, and start cheating on them. They will redirect their dislike of you then to the children.
And as a cheater, the kids have a reason to be upset with you. DO not step in that trap. Mentally healthy people just leave. I am a woman and I derive great pleasure not only from giving head to my husband, I genuinely like the feeling of the velvet penis on my lips. It is a great sensation. I love them for who they are, for how they are different from women and for how they complete us. I love to please my man. I think you all need to talk to your wives.
Oral sex is an admission of total acceptance on the part of the he giver and total surrender on the part of the reciever.
Sex is an activity for making happy not angry. Abnormal man or women may angry after sex. Trying to make sex bad for the other person is not about loving or pleasure. If you are the type of guy who expects his wife to go down town at every insinuation then buddy, you have very little real respect for your wife, period.
That also goes for a woman who straight up refuses to give her partner oral on account of simply not liking it… Of course if there are other factors involved like for eg. I guess at the end of the day, what kind of people we are really defines the kinds of true pleasures we are able to enjoy with our life partners. Are we happy in our relationships? And how much time has passed not being truly happy on either side? Bottom line, oral is a good thing in a monogamous relationship if the either partner enjoys it, but too much of a good thing is asking too much frankly and then a little self control and understanding needs to be exercised….
Cheating is not on the cards. But neither is me being unhappy in our sex life either…. Yes but you can work with consent and commitment and mutual pleasure. Like ten days after we got married if you are lucky enough to have it last that long!
The real question is this: Basically, like any other contract, we were all lied to by being shown a bill of goods that was false. We should all be able to get out of the contract with no repercussions, in fact we should be able to sue for damages. Makes you more aware of what your doing. After marriage many womans consious starts to bother them because they associate blowjobs as something whores and dirtygirls do.
Apparently thats how you feel too. My husband and I had to seriously talk about this issue for me to feel comfortable doing blowjobs. Now Im able to and enjoy it and feel like Im loving him by giving him pleasure and I know he doesnt think Im a dirtygirl.
I was very clear about what I expected and I kept up my part of the bargain. Its the women that cant seem to do it. If you ever sucked the dick before marriage then you must continue.. While dating I received complete blow jobs.. I said okay, fine, no problem, as long as he is willing to let me finger him in the arse, as this is something enjoyable for me even though he would not enjoy it. Kitty…you sound like a cold spiteful woman. I feel so badly for your poor husband haveing to spend the rest of his entire life with an unsatisfying sex life.
This is your lover husband and best friend. He wouldnt ask you to show love to him if he knew it would hurt you. I shudder to think I was once like you. Im so glad I worked this out with my husband. We snuggled this Sunday morning ,it was so cozy and nice.
I lit my pretty vanilla candles on my nightstand ,kissed him slowly all over, whispered sweet nothings in his ear and gave him oral. He didnt last 5 minutes. He is so peaceful and happy today and it gives me so much happiness that he feels so loved by me. He is the greatest guy who has always taken care of my son and I and our son we have together.
If this is all he needs from me to feel loved I will never deprive him again. I adore him and he spoils me.. I wish you to know this kind of intimacy with your husband. There are some psychological issues with you. All of your comments have been very mean spirited. Lynn It sounds as though a man or men have hurt you or caused you significant pain in your life. You deserve better for yourself than to be bitter and live with resentments. I hope you find the help you need to nurture and heal your mind, spirit, and soul.
When you get married, there is an expectation that things will not change radically after the ceremony. Think of it this way. Imagine your husband told you all during your courtship that he loved the idea of having kids. Then, once you were married, he ran out and had a vasectomy. See I had this delusion that people would continue to grow and learn and progress in life. I also had this really weird freakish idea that sometimes unexpected things happen in life and that while this can be horrible sometimes it good.
Then there are kids. Do you really think your not going to get fat old and ugly? No plans to save for retirement? No getting your own place without roommates?
No buying a home? I have no complaints about my own marriage because my husband and I, before getting married, invested years into building a strong relationship founded on mutual respect, mutual concern and mutual consideration. As to my question, while I have no personal experience with my husband doing anything differently after we got married from what he was doing before we got married, I do have sisters and girl friends and I see firsthand the way marriage kills relationships.
I wish people were willing to look at themselves first in trying to figure out where relationships go wrong. In what way might you have changed? What things might you have been doing during the courtship that you have stopped doing since you married? Choosing to believe your wife was deliberately deceptive is easy because then you can just be angry and call her names and make threats while you sit back and make no adjustments yourself.
Behind problems in the bedroom is always a bigger problem. Figure out what your bigger problem is and solve it if it can be solved. That is my plan Linda. I am tired of feeling rejected by poor sex. I am not an animal and can live without a blow job….. I will not live with this void any longer. I am getting a divorce after almost 30 years and am going to hire whores from now on. My divorce will cost me a lot of money and I would rather give it to the pros that actually care to take care of me instead of a wife that just wants to ignore me.
I am a woman, and I must totally agree with Mike. Men love oral sex. For men sex is primal. They are visual, they like to watch you love their body. Oral sex makes them feel like you accept everything about them even their primal needs, without it the feel rejected. Imagine what you have when a marriage becomes infected with that kind of lazy inconsiderate thinking from either side.
Give a well researched, sloppy BJ. Plan a romantic night out. Get your asses in gear people. You made the decision to spend your life with this person. Patience is the mortar that binds all these little bricks of gold. Please spread the news.. Women seem so dense and then after being lackluster shrews they seem amazed when their husband leaves them.
Its not hard to understand. You should have known what you were getting before getting married….. You messed up, no one to blame but yourself. Bottom line, women lie, twist and distort reality. I think the best marriages are ones where the spouses at least recognize what their partners like and desire sexually, and then do — without unreasonable demands being placed on them — their best to accommodate their partner. Resentment builds, the unspoken kind is very dangerous.
Find a compatible partner. Men and women both change after getting married. Men do less for their wives romantically, or start treating her more like a possession or servant.
I have known women that do that too. During the wooing process both a man and a woman give it their all typically. After marriage and the stresses of cohabiting, kids, etc there is less energy on all sides to keep up that kind of thing. Who sits there and says before marriage, hey do you promise to always suck my d whenever I want till death do us part.
Just like if a girl says do you promise to spend all of yer money on jewelry and dates and flowers like you are doing now? No one is perfect and no one is entitled to everything they want, the best hope is to find someone where if one thing ends that everything else is so good that you can still have a great life together and grow old and grey. MsGee I hear what you are saying here… we all change when we transition from dating to married, the kids, the job, the darn mini-van, etc.
We discussed many things about compatibility before marriage how many children we wanted, what our styles on parenting, money, sex, friends, church, etc were. My wife and I actually had this discussion before we were married about her interest in giving and receiving oral sex.
She told me she liked to give more than she liked to receive AND she would swallow every drop. Fast forward 3 days after the ceremony, in front of our loved ones and our Maker, things begin to change.
I understand we change during the life stages we progress through, pregnancy and the post-partum period is very difficult, pre and post menopause, etc. Will my wife not giving me oral sex make me cheat or leave her? When I see my wife selflessly giving to me it makes me want to do the same to her all the more than I do already. My wife is like that too, it sucks. When she takes my cock into her mouth I feel like she accepts all of me unconditionally, its such an intimate moment that cannot be replaced by anything else.
We used to have great oral sex prior to our marriage, now I cannot even get near her vagina to please her in any way. She does still perform on me however not as near as desired, however I am still doing my best to increase the frequency. You only get one life why live a life with resentment and rejection when your spouse is supposed to be your partner and lover and best friend….
Will keep trying though but just hurt and disappointed. You still get it but not at the frequency you desire? Then mate, you need to learn to accept a little more in moderation…. Maybe once or twice a year, she will kiss around on it for maybe a minutes and that is it.
I give her oral sometimes, she seems to enjoy it. Why are women required show a man that she accepts all of him by her servicing him? What sex act by men offers women the same service? Upon reading your thought i almost said something foul. Housing, cash flow, social standing, appeareance of finanical security, etc.
In any so called healthy marriage, Men spend most of their time trying to provide and please their Women with things that make them happy. This is called foreplay Marie; a sex act……. Never thought of it like that. Guess I just took it for granted how he took care of me. Everything he does will be appreciated and noted as a display of his love for me. How easy it is to take someone for granted. Im so glad I found this website. Its drastically improved my marriage from reading all these posts by husbands.
You want to know what sex act provides the same thing to women? Having a say in when, how, and if sex happens. In general women file divorce more then men. However men are far more likely that women to file for divorce if they have a special needs child, or if their wife gets a serious illness.
Your comment explains why. I think this is why so many men on here are infuriated at the idea of women enjoying sex of having a say in how it happens. Are you a recently retired NUN by any chance? Each person has different desires. So figure out why your not enjoying it and get to work on fixing your issue. Your not required to show a man that you love and accept him, you PROMISED to love him in your wedding vows and oral sex is a huge part of how a man feels loved and accepted by his wife.
The foreplay and tenderness from my husband has skyrocketed since I started giving him blowjobs. It amazes me how happy he feels and I only do it once or twice a week. He has started telling me not to go to completion because he wants to finish it by making love to me.
Hes not as obsessed with blowjobs as he use to be prior to me giving them and at the beginning when I started. I think he was just so desperately hungry for my loving him that way.
Now that hes feeling sooo loved by me he desires to make love to me more than getting a BJ. I dont want to be associated with this heartless Marie that posts on here. Though there still is quite the percentage of them. But anyways, i feel that it should be a deal breaker. Out of curiosity, I have spoken to woman who stop giving oral sex after a while. Bj can gain negative associations as a result. First, a woman needs to be warmed up, second she needs to go first. Giving bj cold and then being left hot is very unpleasant and gets old.
My husband and I have no problem giving oral sex to each other. We have foreplay, he gives me first and then I give him. We are both happy when we cuddle afterwards. In our 10 yrs together, bj have positive associations for me.
When I am turned on, my jaw does not hurt, I notice no particular smell or taste. Unlike my fiends who are expected to put up with sexual frustration, taste and smells and all of this with no warm up. Try it — warm her up, give her an orgasm and then you get the bj.
Never leave her frustrated. This is the real issue. Can you say the same? Are you able to say that statement about me? Outside of murder and such, you already know and take for granted, that I will do anything for you. After 30 years, I just sleep on the sofa: Nuni Have you talked with your wife about the lack of intimacy in your marriage?
Like most things in life I would guess there are more than one cause. As others have alluded to, the importance of oral sex to guys cannot be overestimated. It is primal, and it is the height of pleasure. My wife used to give me oral all the time when we were dating, and it continued into the first four years of our marriage. I resent that she does not do it anymore … it feels like she is denying me the feeling of that pleasure.
Iamges: dont ever stop dating your wife quote
If she gets verbally abusive, tell her to leave. And in THAT realm, your success is meaningless.
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In response to your points: She has let herself go, wont suck itand I am tired of fighting off her muffin top. Most of the women I know have achieved many accomplishments in their lives, of all kinds. As time went quoe it went from more than twice a day to not at all. I love to talk about sex fantasies dating agencies san francisco her but she views it as sinful.
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