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A teacher in such a dysfunctional situation should have a long, well-prepared discussion with administration, and should present a well-prepared program for foisting the administration? A fight broke out in the hall and I was able to keep my students calm in the room. Police followed Lavoie and her student through several states. Missy, thanks for the website suggestion. In our school we have procedures in place to deal with these circumstances. After the confrontation, an unidentified individual removed Hansen from the classroom in handcuffs. Instead, they lay all the responsibility on the administrators and the teachers

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He claimed that he had kidnapped the girl to protect her from her abusive parents. Although now retired, I remember well those seventh grade students who tried to push my buttons. Make this part of the I do, we do, you do strategy. The administration refused to remove her, parent was not supportive and the class enjoyed every moment of my torture. Their behaviors changes like tide smile. However, it was returned for insufficient postage and her mother opened the letter.

They do not work. In the few years I've taught, I have been spit at, cursed at, had kids make pretend weapons out of pencils and pretend to shoot me, had desks kicked over, books shoved off desks, and more. It wasn't because I didnt kno or understand guides kids background, it wasn't because I have poor classroom mgmt skills.

It wasn't because I was confrontational or embarrassing anyone. It want that my lessons werent engaging or tjat the work was too bard.

It was that I simply required something of there students. I asked them to do something that they found would cut into their "playing around time. Some students lack respect for everyone. They do not obey or respect their parents, the law, the police, teachers or any other authority figure that should step their way.

How is it when parents have ZERO control of their kids, if they even care at all, they somehow magically expect us as teachers to relate to and educate their kids? What gets me more is the majority of kids who come to school dirty, hungry, no socks, no supplies, and no backpack? Ohhh they have a cell phone though! In the meantime teachesrs suffer fear, depression, anxiety.

Overall morale is low among teachers, poor performing insubordinate students continue to disrupt and cause trouble while better students parents search for a better school without all these problems. The more higher performing students opt out of an almost juvinile detention style school and good teachers leave be wise of the low pay, extended hours, and bad working conditions bed bugs, roaches,filthy bathrooms, and unsanitary cafeteria and lunch All ur left with a tragedy!

At least upper management doesn't have to really worry It's not like they would ever send their kid here!!! Fon let anyone full you, at the end of the day it's about one thing and one thing only I could have used this advice a lot sooner. I ended up in a power struggle with a student. After he had disrupted my class 3 times by making truck noises in the middle of a discussion , I gave him a final warning, he then began yelling at me that the other student who was also being disruptive was making him do it I can't stand the blame game and i am a big beleiver in the " you are responsible for your won actions" school of thought.

This student has been an issue all year and each time he always blames others for his behavior. Any advice for a newish teacher on how to deal with this? In my career, I have taught in some toughest middle schools in Houston. I have had children that have been involved in rape, drug trade and in one case had an ankle monitor. If not, you will eaten alive. I have been in a few situations where I was the lone female adult dealing with several hardcore gang members.

A fight broke out in the hall and I was able to keep my students calm in the room. I had to be the strong voice of reason. I think this advice is a reflection of the times. It is catering to the disruptive student.

A messed up home life is not an excuse to disrupt class. No student had a right to mess up my class because his home or neighborhood is messed up. If a student is told in the beginning not to blurt out and can't handle reminders and warnings in front of the class then he needs to be kicked out in front of the class.

He did it in front of the class deliberately did he not? My sympathies lie with the students who also have messed up homes, as I did, including living in a charity home for 3 years and having two alcoholic parents, one of whom was violent,yet are struggling to do their jobs and are suffering because of teachers who are more sympathy for the disrupters than those who are tracking with them.

What kind of training for work is this? What employer is going to waste his time on malingering disruptive rebellious workers? True, many students do not sleep, eat, bathe, have curfews, set bedtimes, limitations of t. I am an educator and am interested in seeing my students learn, but am mandated to teach government packaged curriculum that does not cover all of their needs.

I supplement, buy books, materials, and sweat bullets to make my classroom a wonderful place, but am disrespected daily. Gum, candy wrappers, my books treated as garbage, assignments poorly attempted, all while trying desperately to modify and accommodate the needs of each individual student. Meanwhile, the government is slowly chipping away at taking any security I have, putting my job on the line each year as they give me less time to teach what is necessary, and evaluate my performance as they seriously consider all of their evaluations on me.

If I score low on this, that affects my evaluation as a teacher. Students take these surveys right after they receive report cards, and are not thrilled getting the grades they have earned.

Suggestions in the article are nice, but, just barely a starting point, I 've done all of that and more.. I agree with frustratedteacher,if kids don't learn how to respect and listen to their own parents. Then a teacher don't have a chance. My child is in home schooling because he couldn't focus in class, because of unruly children. We as parents have to work hard and raise our children properly because they are the future. What I've noticed to be the best tactic is when a teacher doesn't corner the distracting student by using the "You, you, you" on them.

I've noticed that students respond better when not pointed out aggressively, also doesn't get accused harshly. When a student is being distracting aggressively pointing them out just makes them "put up their defenses. What usually happens next, is the teacher kicks them out of the class for being unresponsive and bullheaded. So in the end the students get what they were somewhat forced to want. At the beginning of the year, I like to tell my students that I always have another homework assignment that I can hand out at any time.

I tell them that the class as a whole is a team, and if I catch one of them with their cell phones, then the whole class will have to do the homework assignment. Penalizing the whole class for their actions gets them to stop real quick as their classmates will not think they are as funny if they have extra homework because of one student's actions.

I agree with what was written about power struggles and students. As teachers we have an obligation to be a role model in everything we do I am a bit embarrassed by some of the comments from frustrated teachers. If we follow through with much of what is spoke of, we indeed can avoid and manage power struggles.

I hope that some of the comments represent the vocal, frustrated minority and not the majority of those in this profession. I have spent the last 25 yrs working in Title I elementary schools. Your advice to NOT get into a power struggle may be fine in the ordinary world but it does not hold up in my reality. Teachers do not want power struggles, but they happen. There have been numerous situations when I am forced to stand my ground.

I have had students melt down and no assistance came from admin. The kicker here is: Often, it set an example that my "no" means no and my "yes" means yes. Too many of my students are used to wearing down the adults in their lives to get their own way. When they come across me, they don't know how to respond because it is foreign to them. We discuss what happened, why it happened and how to avoid it in the future. The student still receives the appropriate consequence, but it is rare that the same altercation occurs.

I am not saying that a teacher should allow an unsafe situation to go on. That is when the class is sent out of the room and security is called. What I'm describing is blatant disregard for rules and procedures or disrespect. I have a reputation in my building. When a new student came into our class last April, I overheard another classmate say, "Mrs.

You want her to be your friend. Parents request that their students be placed in my classroom because I am fair, fun and work hard to maintain a safe climate. BUT, sometimes, you have to stand your ground. I always find articles that tell us how to act, how to behave, keep control.

All we do as teachers is trying to improve to provide a better learning environment. I'd like to find articles involving parents, giving strategies for parents to educate their children in something as simple as respecting others. I would love to find articles, TV shows, and theories where children are held accountable, theaching them to be responsible and respectful to others at school, and also strategies to improve their bad behavior.

I feel that it's always up to us, the teachers to keep control. We do our best, but this society needs to seriously focus on parents being better parents and educating their children so they can go to school and let us teach.

Future teachers, do not be lulled into the notion that most children want to learn. Many don't care to learn. They want to get grades that are good enough so that their parents don't give them hard time. The balance of the kids will likely see you as a speed bump that prevents them from being where they want to be as fast as they want to be there. Generally, students want to be told the answers.

They don't want to reason them out. Behavior issues arise when their "expectations" are not met. Also, many children have been raised in daycare, which does not give them the constant re-directs that their parents, often "parent," can give them.

When you begin teaching, find out how long the teaching gurus have been out of the classroom and make your conclusions about their advice accordingly. Just unhappy to find being a teacher is so hard. I thought you just went to school and taught children that wanted to learn.

These other kids in the class make teaching almost impossible. Why didn't the parents teach them about manners, respect, and courtesy.

I am having to start at square one with most of my students. I started off by teaching them No. I do not believe they had ever been told No. It is amazing to me. The kids have not been taught basic social skills.

Teaching complicated concepts seems to be a waste of time when Johnny is throwing stuff and Janey cannot put away her cell phone. I agree and have used many of the tactics in the classroom. Humor is good as well. It is a shame, though, that we are the ones who have to teach children how to behave. Making funny comments back to them defuses the conflict on most occasions.

Also, just talking and asking them if they have an academic question about the lesson helps. If it is not about the lesson, I ask them to wait until later for that question. I'm not a good arguer at all. I redirect them and go back to teaching.

Focusing on being able to teach the students that ARE on task is the goal. Then I handle the student through individual conversation,the parent, counselor, or principal, at a later time. I try not to allow the disruptive student to control my class. I am the one in control. And my teaching of the lesson is the most important thing at that time.

I work in a middle school that has a large group of unruly disruptive students. Our best students have parents that are involved and hold their kids responsible for bad behavior not the teacher. The teacher is there to teach academics first and then provide guidance in behavior. The teachers are there to inspire creative ,independent thinkers. They should help foster good learning skills for the rest of the child's life.

I am not sure when this shift of total blame on the teachers happened? I work hard as a parent to support my children in regards to school. Homework checks and communication with the teachers has been the key to my kid's successes. They know if they mess up there will be big consequences. I praise them often and show respect to educators who deserve it!

The school I work for has gone from a school that expects our students to succeed to a place where we hope they can just make it through the year. The administrators fight to keep the most disruptive kids and barley say a word when our shinning stars leave.

I am sick of people blaming the schools for not doing the job they should be doing at home. Its that same lazy blame game that creates lazy ,disrespectful students! The government is now holding teachers responsible for students' behavior -- we are evaluated on how well they behave. Not all kids with behavior problems have a bad home life they have a bad school life with NO ONE to help them or stand up for them. You're an educator, and you have a child in your class displaying behaviours that you feel warrant an assessment and some special needs education and the parents won't agree to it?

Pick up the phone and call child protective services if you feel a child in your presence is being neglected medically by his or her parents. You're not a doctor and you have not business determining a diagnosis or needs for this child. No one is stopping you from making referrals to outside agencies to come in and make observations, are they? Have you asked your principal to come and observe? You have options and in fact obligations to do so ethic for this child if his or her needs are not being met!

Severe disruptions are not always a sign of a bad home life. STOP making excuses for these students who refuse to listen to adults, prevent other students from learning, bully,and are not interested in the learning process. Hmm, wonder if 'help please' is from RCSD Need help w unruly student, think he is mentally challenged, but his parents refuse to send him to special Ed pokes self with pencils, attacks teacher, kisses aides hands, constant noises, lays on floor, etc superintendent says public Ed can't help other kids in class learn bc unruly kid deserves education too I think the rest of them just don't know how to care, largely because they have not been convinced, in the cacaphony which is their lives, that this is important.

And that, I believe, comes back to us. Are we presenting material in ways that encourage kids to care? I am not suggesting in any way that things always go smoothly in my 7th grade classroom. Where is the parent role in these situations? Why not teach the golden rule? Arguing with the teacher is not Being disruptive is not Being disrepectful is not Great, if you have one disruptive student--with 6, the whole class is hostage to the kids whose agenda is outside the classroom.

Go back to tracking and collect the disruptive ones in a single class, they will either lose their audience and behave, or kill one another--either way the other kids aren't losing anything.

I liked the ideas pointed out in this article. As with all things, some will work and some will not. I will definitely share them with my colleagues. I believe they will benefit from this article as I did. I agree with a lot of these suggestions. I would add that what students are or are not eating can influence their engagement and behavior. Also, I often find that students are getting inadequate sleep. Calls home can help remedy these situations. I have my degree and was to go onto teaching but ended up down a sidebar called life.

So I work in forensics where people who have mental health issues have committed a crime but were found to be guilty by reason of insanity and then sentenced to a state mental hospital such as Oregon's. I have to tell you that in reading everyone of these comments and the article, all of it sounds exactly like what I deal with with my patients.

The ages of my patients run from teen to elderly adult. So the power plays are similar and since Im thinking of retiring from the state and this job, Im considering getting into teaching.

I see right now where all of my training in mental health and additions counseling will help me in the class room. I totally disagree with the statement that middle school students do not care. I think lots of them care. I think most of them care. I am not suggesting that things are as easy or as productive as they were 15 years ago. But my students are mostly invested in coming to class every day and see what we are going to accomplish together.

Missy, thanks for the website suggestion. I will definitely check that out. Have any of you checked out www. It has amazing strategies to help with classroom management, specifically those hard to reach students. There are examples of these strategies on youtube as well.

In my previous comment - should be below this one. Whenever I used an apostrophe mark, "it" inserted a question mark. I don't want readers to think I was derelict in my proofreading. The article was helpful to a degree. However, the focus of the article involves when "one" student is disruptive. One student is usually not a problem.

Even the most novice teacher can probably handle ONE disruptive student. I work with middle and high school students. The problem is when a teacher is "tag-teamed"-- when there are three, or more, disrupting at the same time. I kept waiting for the advice on what to do when there's "group disruption. As some have already alluded, calling home can be a miracle worker.

When groups refuse to work, I telephone their parents at the first opportunity during the day, or send an email. After a telephone call home, often there?

When I telephone home, I make sure that I begin the conversation complimenting what the student does well, and I assure parents that I like their child, enjoy having them in the class; I really praise a student? Furthermore, circulating around the class room, "assisting" also works. There's always an assignment they "should be" attempting to complete. When groups decide something other than the immediate task needs to be discussed, I "visit" EACH one, inquire about the status of their assignment, look it over and see if I can offer any suggestions on how to improve, or any general advice pertaining to the completion of the task at hand.

Usually, that's enough to get them off "their" current topics and back to the lesson. When I approach such students, I don? In that manner, students aren? Do you mind if I look at look it?? And, I take it from there. Of course, if they? Therein lies my opportunity to assess if they truly understand what they are to do and to motivate them in any way that I can to get it done. Students need to be taught respect from home. I usually take the disruptive student aside and have a one on one conversation.

My expectations are restated and for the most part the student understand what is expected and what is not tolerated. We have allowed students to become more and more disruptive by labeling them and having them feel that whatever they do is okay because of that label. The school administration is the key. I had a student who was placed in my class and promised to bully me and disrupt class everyday until I got her placed into the class she wanted.

The administration refused to remove her, parent was not supportive and the class enjoyed every moment of my torture. In fact the rest of the class joined in and threatened the one or two who did not, if they actively supported me. When there are no voices in support and 30 in constant accusation, it is hard to maintain a learning environment.

I was finally asked to leave because I was an " ineffective teacher". That, at first, hurt me but they were right. Without administrative support, it was not possible to be an effective teacher.

Whenever I have a student tell me that they hate this class or this school, I tell them "oh yeah, I just got an email from the class or school , and it said it hates you too.

For some reason, it gives them some brief attention, no power struggle, a little break and a laugh. So often, just giving them an attn shift seems to do the trick.

One of my middle school experiences stands out as unfavorable. Hopefully,my review of these essential classroom survival tips will increase my chances of a harmonous day! One of my desires is to increase my compassion for middle school children. It's important to keep in contact with the parent,but it's difficult when they don't support you at home. Middle school students are very disrespectful.

When they say they don't care they really don't,forunately I have been caring for 30 years and I care. It's important to keep in contact withthe parent,but it's difficult when they don't support you at home. When they say they don't care they really don't,forunately Ihave been caring fro 30 years. I have to admit that I have lost my cool at times and wonder daily how I will manage to make it another 20 years. I use a lot of humor and don't tolerate too much, but it's a tough world and only going to get tougher if schools don't take back authority.

I do not remember a policy and procedure handbook when I was in school and yet, it's not even being followed. Time to address the real issues and stop blaming the teachers who do not "understand" the children. I really do get it, but I'm here to help, not make anyone's life even worse than it is. Helen, neither are my children for the same reasons. What a bunch of baloney! How does this teach them about the real world? I know, I know, it doesn't! Teachers are only as strong as the administration that supports them.

To offer no consequences for unacceptable behavior guarantees that some students will repeat this behavior. Many students respond well and only needed a reminder to stay on task, but there are some students who have been taught by poor parenting that they can get away with bad behavior and strive to create discord. In our school we have procedures in place to deal with these circumstances. Teachers will meet and discuss the best alternative for that child, Please note, An IEP or does not mean a parent is off the hook for their child's behavior.

If their child continues to disrupt class; he parent should be compelled to attend a conference on that student's behalf. In middle school wwe try to teach the student that it is now their responsibility to make the right choices.

If they choose to behave that way, they will serve detention, Saturday school, or another appropriate consequence. We essentially have to teach the child what they should have learned from their parents and never did. Classroom sexual predators have been exploiting these new, unsupervised modes of communication to develop improper relationships with students out of sight of parents and principals.

These instantaneous, omnipresent and discreet connections have created an open gateway for inappropriate behavior. While male school employees were the perpetrators in two-thirds of all reported sexual misconduct cases with students in , women were more likely to use social media to lure students. To curb these troubling incidents, schools must have targeted policies governing electronic communication. Some states and school districts already have taken strong action in this area.

It also says electronic contact with students should be done only through district computers and telephones. More states and school districts need to take similar action. While social media can be an important tool for learning, reasonable restrictions must be put in place to protect children. If a teacher or coach wants to send an electronic communication to a student, it should be copied to a parent.

Private messages with children should never be allowed. When my team speaks to educators around the country, they generally are stunned by the size and scope of this problem, and rightfully so. Policymakers and school leaders need to get tougher on these cases. School districts should review existing employee guidelines and make sure they tightly control social media interaction between school employees and students.

America is blessed with many great educators who work hard to teach children every day. Those children include my year-old son, who attends a great public school in Texas. My teacher abused me, so why do I feel like the perp? Stop demonizing teen sexting. Share on Google Plus. Be the first to know about new stories from PowerPost. More teachers are having sex with their students. Here's how schools can stop them. Social media has provided an open gateway for classroom sexual predators.

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The boy could not resist posting to Facebook, and police were able to track his location to an Internet cafe. Thirty-four-year-old Paul Tramontini met year-old Katherine Baillie after he watched her play in a band. You're an educator, and you have a child in your class displaying behaviours that you feel warrant an assessment and some special needs education and the parents won't agree to it?

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We need to get back to basics - which in today's electronic quick fix society is not going to happen. Private messages with children should never be allowed. Choose the well-behaved respectful students to model a new skill, act in leadership roles, pass out papers or books, etc.

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Police followed Lavoie and her student through several states. I think lots of them care. Hopefully,my review of these essential classroom survival tips will increase my chances of a harmonous day! I had a student students dating their teachers was placed in my class and promised to bully me and disrupt class everyday until I got her placed into the class she wanted. Now, students dating their teachers of these reasons and theories, of course, seek to explain the more socially acceptable form of teachers having sex with students, which is women teachers having sex with post-pubescent male students, some of whom apparently consider the experience their "lucky day. My speed dating 35-45 ans paris abused me, so why do I feel like the perp? Nearly 80 percent of youth ages 12 to 17 own a cellphone, and 94 percent now have a Facebook account.