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And most look like serial killers. Life hacks are all the rage these days. Watch out for military or police women. Back to this last guy, he seems okay, kind of formal, but that's fine. I met this Australian man who profile name was Ayapi. And there doesn't seem to be too much that can be done about limiting that. Playsam makes the Alfieri and Levante from solid wood.
Well, to be completely fair, California City and Oregon City are real places. Who ever is behind all of this has spent a lot of money in data. Money was sent to this person several thousand dollars, as they told me they were divorced after her ex abandoned her and her daughter. Nothing to look for here. It by far has been the worst experience since I've relocated to the south.
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I reported him to the FBI. THEN, shortly after that, I got involved with another piece of garbage. The name he used was Michael Asare. The picture was great, but later that night when he sent another photo it didn't match. Before that, he once again, asked me for my password, so that he could cancel my dating site. I said I will do it as its no big deal to reinstate on match. On the website it said, ND.
I then asked him where he lived he said FL. He then said he was on business in Ghana. Had nasty attitude cuz I asked. Actor he thought he had smoothed things over he asked for my address. I gave him someone else's address. He said he had a surprise for me. I acted all excited. As we were talking I am conducting research about him. Found 46 hits on a scammer website. I then cursed him out and called him a scammer and told him I was going to report him. I too have had the lovely pleasure of such scam artists.
One a guy who was on an oil rig He never asked for money but wanted me to apply for him to come home on a leave The third is hard on me Was time to come home but government there wanted him to pay the income tax on the projected earnings before he left Good thing I am poor because I didn't have the money to send and told him so.
All three were sure I was the gal for them and that we would be together one day! OMG , I think you and i were scammed by the same guy. This guy had salt n pepper colored hair and a goatee. The first guy you mentioned Did he go by the name Gary Osmond? Wife died of breast cancer. On oil rig as a seismic interpretor? Has a son he leaves with nanny but won't say nanny's name. Yes, I was recently scammed by a man who claimed to be American.
He told me he was a civil engineer working in South Africa. He told me his wife had died from cancer. He also told me he wanted to marry me. I always suspected something was wrong. He asked for money help on the last e-mail. I called my sister and she reminded me it was a scam. I still had feelings for him, until that day. Please, be careful ladies. Scammers are looking for female victims, you say?
Most scammers that have victimized me have been young females. I met girl online skout app she gave me phone number I rang her she real she gave telegram messenger app we text each other all she wanted my money I look up Facebook no profile She want me transfer money into bank account she said she loves me want me is she scamming me money.
I'm writing because I have concerns that my aunt is currently being romanced by a scammer. She's 69, overweight, been divorced over 10 years, and hasn't dated at all in that time. She does have a 19 yr old daughter and has prob poured her time into that. But, she started talking to a guy on Our time.
Within a couple days of making a profile. She's never been on a dating site before. He also has told her he will be traveling to Mexico soon for work. I think she said he has a scrap metal business. She ate that up. He says he has a sister that has cancer here in Alabama that he says he helps care for. He has a foreign accent, speaks broken English, and says his family is of German descent. He is younger, attractive, has photos he has sent her of a red Mercedes in front of a large home and of him driving a boat.
I Google image searched all of his photos with little luck. But, 2 of the photos matched seemingly fake LinkedIn profiles for a man with a different name. The guy on the profiles lives in LA, has a master's in engineering from Oxford, and is an account executive at the World Bank for 45 yrs. So, I sent those profiles to my aunt and she is supposedly done with him. Well he convinced her his former business partner embezzled all of his assets and scammed him.
He told her that is also why he has no social media presence. She totally believes it. We have tried to get her to video chat with him or to ask for a photo with her name and the date on it. I think she wants to continue living in Lala land. We just don't know how to get through to her.
The guy in the pictures is way too attractive and young for her, so she probably doesn't want to mess it up is my guess. I was like you've given him your address to send you a Teddy Bear and even if he is the guy in the photos he could be a criminal, convicted sex offender, etc.
She says "he's so genuine and honest". If I Google image search doesn't find the pictures you are researching, use the other reverse imaging sites, as yandex.
I have found that you have to use all three search enginees, to get the best chance to find any unknown photos. Remember also that make a new search some days after the first search. The image that the search sites find, is updated regulary. Hi, I had this guy, who suddenly appear in my facebook sending me a friend request..
I checked his fb profile, and saw only very few post.. He told me, if we can chat on hangouts, so i said ok.. He is a widower, he has a 12 yr old son.. I was shocked because we did not know each other well.. I told him that I have a bf, and he never mind about it.. He said he was si busy, he only gets a vacation once every 4months.. I even uninstalled my hungots so that he cant disturb me anymore Yes that's a scammer..
Very good you spotted that he was from Nigeria. Everything else he told you was a lie. I got a women from Nigeria telling me she was searching and find me and thought it would be nice to get to know me.
I didn't think nothing of it until she started to love me already. It's been 1 month into this. Who ever is behind all of this has spent a lot of money in data. She contacts me every day. She's a student, works at salon and runs jewelry business as well. The read Flag was that she said some guys came into the studio and said for , nira she could get a visa to US. You see all this is false the price is less than 60, Nira.
I feel like this is such a waste of time. Then she send me a copy of her Nigerian passport. I have notice that it has errors in the spelling and birth year is looks like it was made from the number 6 instead of 9. Goes to show you what they would do for the money. I confronted her about all of this but she said what am I talking about. I doubt she's be coming here real soon. Because they never do, if you don't pay for it but even if you do they still won't come because they no you will keep sending the money.
Why leave your country to go and see the guy or girl sending you money for hopes, dreams and non-visit.. I therefore ask "her" to buy a webcam. And that I am pausing our conversation til I can see the person I am chatting with.
Some of the "women" told me that they are working for UN i Syria, U. S Army and aren't allowed to use any webcam. A funny "woman" asked me to send money to her, to buy a webcam. S, but we're living in U. I told her that I will buy her a webcam through a Internet-shop in U. K directly, if she give me her address where it could be delivered.
But she insisted that she wanted me to send money. But I had some success. At last, I meet a local girl, to my surprise, living in my neighborhood. Beware of a scammer using the name Katie Morgan claiming to live in Orlando Florida and has a daughter named Vera.
This person will swear her undying love and may refer to you as her "King". If you say you're done with her she'll say she's going to commit suicide. May even tell you she's either in the hospital or just got out of the hospital. I was caught in a romance scam for over a year. This person told me they lived in another state but would not call. Money was sent to this person several thousand dollars, as they told me they were divorced after her ex abandoned her and her daughter.
After six months of being lied to this person "came clean" and told me her daughter was living with her aunt in the US and that her ex abandoned her in Nigeria with nothing but her luggage. Then I was told it had met a lady that she'd became good friends with named Nneka and that I could send money to her in the name Katie Morgan Nneka. That was the final straw and I've since stopped talking to this person and changed my phone number.
The're out there they want your money because they're the winner you are the loser. They have their own song about. Never give them money, they will do everything they can to get your money.
I smart they will never get it. I would like to see one of them actually fly here. Western Union is suppose to ask you how long you know this person and protect you from sending the money. You don't know this girl she's a fake and lair. They just want the money nothing else matters just the money! Are you really trying to offer another scam on an article that talks about how to be aware of scams? Recommend deleting this post above.
In this article they suggest a search, for someone you think may be trying to scam you, says the search is free The next screen asks for a credit card number and which option you'd like to use?? Why did the previous screen say 'free' if it's not actually free. That sounds like a scam right there. Google Reverse Image Search https: Yandex Reverse Image Search https: Bing Reverse Image Search http: TinEye Reverse Image Search https: I'm in contact with a orthopaedic doctor, who tells me his in Ukraine, we've been chatting every day for some time now.
He constantly tells me how much i mean to him, but don't they all? Since joining a dating site, think I've had more scammers than hot dinners. I chat with him on viber, what should I do? Sounds like the best thing to do is just cease all contact.
All of that sounds like typical scam techniques, and it'll be easier to just cut off all communication. Wow that sounds very much like the man I've been talking to I met him on CatholicMatches. If he doesn't get the money he will lose the contract and not get paid for all his time, efforts and hard work and will not get paid as they will reassign the contract elsewhere.
I could go on but it sounds like we're taking to the same man Beverly that sounds a lot like this guy that is communicating with me. Brian Reynolds with a heavy accent. Needed an iTunes card to continue to chat since his phone card was getting low and couldn't leave his job site to buy one. There are a million of them out there.
Reading these posts I'm shocked to see how much scamming seems to be "a thing" now days. I've had two attempts made on me in the last 3 months; and luckily I didn't fall for it. I met the first one on FB and only accepted his friend request because we had a friend in common.
I went to his timeline to see who the friend was, and it was a childhood friend I've known since the 3rd grade. Now after this has happened again, and the 2 men sounded like the same man probably was ; I've been online the last two days looking at sites like this one It's amazing how we can become attached to, and really start to care about someone just through conversation! My friends kept telling me to watch out, and I said that he hadn't asked me for money as the first one had.
Lo and behold 2 days later he asked if I could send him an ITunes card, I though that wasn't asking for much considering he's out at sea, etc Then 4 days later last night he wanted a lot more, for a seemingly good reason, but when I told him no, he turned very cold, where before, he was madly in love and couldn't wait to meet, that I was the best woman that he'd had the good fortune to meet, yada yada yada.
Luckily I wasn't taken for more. So I know much more now after going to these sites on how to spot and avoid scammers, but it's just too emotionally draining ; I went to the Catholic dating site where I met him and opted out on renewing my subscription. Mine expires in November and I will not be renewing it.
I'm very wary now about meeting someone online who is honest and trustworthy, who wants a relationship and not money. Well I wish everyone luck, just be very careful out there in cyberspace. Too bad the old saying is true I feel ya sister!!! Probably stole those pics. Told him no to iTunes card. I did the dumbest thing ever. I actually started talking to man through his email. He was going to be leaving the site soon etc.
With in seven days we had 48 pages of emails. None of his information could be verified. A meeting had been set up, but postponed because he had to go to the UK on business.
He knew I had no money up front, why keep up the front? He claimed to be pretty wealthy, but when I checked where he said he lived, it was cockroach infested apartments in very bad section of town.
The real kicker he was out of town supposedly local at the time, and he asked me what airport he had to fly into to get to our locality. The idiot didn't know how to get home. I think my friend is being groomed by a scammer. Its happening on facebook. On her page she only has pictures of herself and some of my friend that he sent her.
She has no friends listed on her page. Its like she has no life. He is too innocent to see it. She is young and pretty, he is 48 and bald.. Her name on fb is sandra ashlyn from california city california. I really hope he doesnt get conned out of any money. I think you're right. I wish we didn't have to wade through all this crap to find love.
I've given up on it. I would date a guy who is 48 and bald maybe because I'm an age appropriate match , but I can't find any who are real and who aren't looking for year-old women. I hope your friend survives this without losing his life savings. That does sound a bit like a scam, but it's always hard to tell. Have there been any updates since you posted this? I met this girl on Skout, and at first, everything was coming along at a nice pace, we started talking around midnight, but everything escalated quickly.
She is from CA, like me, but "working" in Nigeria. That same night, she told she was out of the country for research and her debit card wasn't working.
She said she would be home in two weeks from the day we met, which will be three days from the day I am posting this. She said she needed to pay her phone bill so she would be able to talk to me. I payed her through Western Union. She then needed grocery money, so i then payed her the next couple days.
I even called her out that this was a scam, and she said she would never scam me or hurt me. We argued for a while asking what is her benefit from scamming me, and i told her my money.
I asked her to send a photo of herself with a sign with my name, which I did for her, and the photo looked photoshopped. I called her out on it and she got mad, but she sent me a real photo with her same top, just without the sign.
I helped her out with groceries on and off until she told me if she doesn't pay her hotel bill, she will go to jail. She sent me a picture of a check from a restaurant in Tennessee, where she is not from, and asked me to put it in my account, cash it, then wire it to her. I told her no, this is a scam. She said she was heartbroken because I thought she was fake. We argued all day that day and she said she just wanted to see me.
She said i don't need to deposit the money and that she will be fine. She said she just wants my love. In her country, it is an 8 hour time difference, and she said she literally hated working out there. She text me when she got up, she even fell asleep a couple times. And she wasn't even model-type, she was really cute though with live selfies. She sent me many pictures of herself and no similar images popped up with reverse image search.
I sent her a couple of mine, and she said no dirty pics, and she said she is a virgin. When they ask for money then it is a scam. If not, then that person is just using you for money. If she is legit she will come. I asked her to send a photo of herself with a sign with my name Special "photoshop" software is available on the Internet, where you could type in whatever text you want, in the sign.
I got talking to a woman on a dating site. The conversation moved from the site to whatsapp and we have been talking on whatsapp for a long time in the evening and she is sending videos and images of herself. Everything being talked about is normal in the conversation and nothing out of the ordinary. Tuesday she said that she needed to go to casablanca for a meeting about some affairs. Then on wednesday she said that the meeting is not going well and that she needs to send a package to france and could I receive this package.
It is at this moment I knew that it was a scam, so now I am playing the scammer. My best line so far has been that I have shown her photo to my friend who is a policeman and he thinks that you are really cute and that he looks forward to meeting you.
I have given all her details to the local police. I fell into it too met this really pretty woman online kept saying she loved me all the time long story short bought her a cell phone calls me can barely understand her such bs got me to purchase a plane ticket well i stopped it she goes by the name juliet corsy, or ruth juliet anni , she has 3 phone numbers all differnt locations she will say she's rich has money coming to her dont believe it its all bullshit. But never got any comment, not even a thanks but no thanks, seems like they don't even get them, but the scammers sure answer quick with a too good to be true letter and great pictures.
I was married for fourteen years and divorced for eleven. Was her idea for the split, shes remarried a few years I can't even get a date yet. Think she put a curse on me lol. Can't believe so many people jump in bed on the first date, both sexes. It's that kind of life style that hurts so many people,that nobody trust anybody anymore and I can't say that I blame them. Which I've never done before, maybe this will work, who ever reads this might know of somebody through the grape vine.
I know there's good ones out there I just read some of there letters here. There's too many bad ones out there in the way of us good one's. I Know this is a little off the wall but I'll give it a shot. If there's any good one's out there please I'd love to meet you. I'm trying something different, by, bypassing all the dating services.
Because, really from the comments I've read about all these dating sites. There's a lot of unhappy people out there, wish they'd quit playing games and say what they really think, that's what I try to do. The same pigs have shown up on all of the dating apps I have used.
I originally started with plenty of fish, where I met two very good long-term friends, but no romantic chemistry. The majority of the other users were soliciting inappropriate photos and sending them as well.
A few mentally unstable messages followed rejections. There are just as many people looking for hook ups on match. Disappointing as to what society has become. I don't agree entirely with this article.. I use dating sites and am smart using them, as a result I don't get harassed. If the woman is smart and secure of herself instead of making it easy for the man it would make dating for a female easier.
A lot of women are Insecure of themselves and a man can sense that, if I get a sexualized message instead of being afraid I just message back and say"you're disgusting best of luck. Just saying an insecure woman who acts fearful is more bound to be harassed on these sites. I've also met and dated plenty of men from free dating sites that are seeking a commitment, don't assume ALL men only want a hookup that's not at all true.
More so want Casual stuff but if you spend enough time online you'll meet decent men that want a relationship. I had 2 boyfriends come from OkCupid, there are good ones online too. Don't make yourself vulnerable and easy for the men! Nail very much hit on the head. Online dating for girls that are decent and offline for that matter requires work and a combination of common sense, good judgement and patience. Same thing for decent guys going online - it requires work and there are guides out there that go a bit further than the generic "read her profile" advice given here if guys looked hard enough for them and that easily help them stand out.
I think the problem is these days people are more desperate than ever for a quick fix and dismiss new ideas if they don't see sparks flying first go. I saw similar things in college where most my friends got brutally negative, generic and uninformed advice particularly if parents had no clue about their field if they hadn't gotten a job within 1 week of graduation. You cant seriously sitt there and say honestly that women have dating harder than men. I mean seriously, is that honestly what you think?
You watch as your sanity melts away from the slow burning tourture of loanliness, you would go mad, anyone would. It amazes me how selfish women are, it really does, id love to give you all my pain just for one day sso you would understand the utter hopless misery that men have to face! I hate this life i just want to die. I just cant beleive any woman would sit there and say she has it harder than men.
You have no idea what decades of blanket rejections and loanliness would do to you, it would kill you, its true hell. Yeah obviously easier for women. Men have to work hard even to get validation from girls while women have men blowing up their phones boosting their ego by chasing them.
Guys be happy with even unwanted attention from opposite sex. Women can't make up their minds because of all their o ptions. While men don't have nearly the same amount of options or experience. They can get attention and sex easily while guy gets neither easily cuz he has to compete for it. Competing, chasing and getting rejected can be so discouraging that you question if it's worth it if girls are so narcissistic and dismissive to guys' advances. Women never deal with rejection the way guys do.
They never put themselves in that position and so they are constantly avoiding rejection and receiving positive attention from guys chasing them. Why sex so "creepy? Means guy attracted to you. Take it as a compliment. Why society berate the guy for being a man?! You put up a pic, put little work into your profile, and yet expect so much from the guys who contact you?
You even admit you receive nice messages, but refuse to even acknowledge such guys? Not even a simple thank you back? What does that say about you?? Congrats on the ego stroke, but I'm not taking the bait. Lot of guys of looking for someone to actually date, and you aren't that person. Your advice simply does not apply. Lots of good n bad on it. As soon as i read your name i knew you were an Aussie, i agree with your sentiments regarding dating sites, they're about as barren as some pubs are these days I was recently scammed on Match.
There have been class action suits against Match for portraying themselves with 15 million users when only a million are paid subscribers and the rest contain a lot of scam artists looking to relieve you of your cash. The whole site is a scam in the sense they want to auto renew your subscription which is hard to stop once you sign up. I wonder if any of the people on the site are real at all! It is and some are, had a bunch of dates on there before I met my girlfriend who we now live together and have a beautiful baby boy with Where as in the real world it is harder for men to key in on victims.
You just have to be more careful use an extra screening process and not take things so personal knowing it is a numbes game and nothing that is exceptional should be expected or necessarily easy to obtain Just like life if you want something special sometimes it takes hard work! I think I'm being scammed.
I put a report with the fbi a month ago. I'm waiting for them to respond. I'm keeping him on the hook until I hear from the agency. So they can take over and catch him.
I've been asked for money. His company name I have researched. It's a generic website and the addresses I looked up for his offices show no record of his company ever being there. Lease records and such. He has an Enflick voip number, but his last picture looks like a location of what he's stated. I can't find evidence his pictures are reposts of someone else. How do I proceed safely until the authorities arrive? I am a good looking guy not a model will not say that not arrogant but 5'10 and pounds.
Last time l was online dating was about 10 years ago meet my ex wife and the mom of our daughter through lavalife. This time I find pof a total waste of time I am a gold member but our of couple of dozens ladies I contacted 1 only replied back and she told me you are a really nice man and wish you best of luck but just started to date a man. I am only 40, leave in greater Vancouver, bc have a good job and rent a 2 bedroom place on my own plus drive a suv.
It seems maybe wrong that the idiot men have flooded the ladies to Mt he point they tune out even great men or that many sadly l suspect accounts on pof now are fake. Either way l am at the point of giving up and l am sure l was not the first or last normal nice man to reach this point due to no ladies replying back at all.
Dont give up fella, just work harder and lower expectations of how quickly results should come I've been doing online dating for only a few months seriously. Anyway, what I am seeing is a growing disconnect and a lot of people getting disgruntled. I have to admit I was too in the beginning.
I think it is because one develops expectations based on statistics instead of reality. I thought, at first, "wow, so many women to see who I really am"! Statistically speaking, I should get a few responses. So I start examining the numbers game and thought I could play a little with it. I want to be strategic about this, right? I try to throw in a little humor if I can, but my first message, if there is something in her profile, ALWAYS contains at least one if not a few references to hers.
I write in complete sentences and try to seek ways to spark a conversation. I make no lewd comments whatsoever. I don't even reference anything about looks except once and that was a weak moment on my part since she her picture affected me that way, plus it was an experiment to see if venturing there yielded anything different. I also try to not be unrealistic as far as types of women I try to engage.
I am 52, 6' 2", a little under lbs, no paunch, somewhat athletic and active, and I feel I am decent looking but have no idea how to quantify that. After reading about how to write a profile, I feel I've written a strategically thorough yet somewhat concise one.
I will say that overall, I am an eclectic type that's hard to describe very thoroughly: I am personally open to a wide variety of situations, but I feel most women want some kind of commitment.
I don't game because I haven't dated in almost thirty years. I had been married for about 27 years and now divorced for a year. So I am not even sure what this "game" they keep talking about really is, although I have an idea.
Whatever it is, I would certainly abide by the wishes and expectations of whomever I want to see and date. What are you doing?
If I try to go deeper at all, they either disappear or keep repeating themselves probably catfishers since other things about their profiles make their seeking me unrealistic.
Then, I have had a couple go a few sentences longer, but almost all have ended. Unfortunately, one had a legitimate mental disorder from traumatic brain injury. I tried to make this one work, but we just could never connect. One other one is so far away, I am still seeing where it goes. But so far, at best we'll be friends and no dates unless I travel over miles to another country.
I've sent dozens of messages not hundreds yet , along with "winks" do these even work? I am paid on POF so I can see where a ton aren't read. A few read, some read then deleted and some deleted outright. I respect the deleted ones, so I don't even bother. A few of those were probably out of my league anyway I was too old, or they were way more active or maybe interests didn't match. I had hoped that I would have gotten a little more response out of the others, especially ones who were mutual "meet me" that POF has.
But even that didn't garner a response. So then I don't know if sending more messages is expected, tacky, pestering, or what. I feel like I need to based on what some women seem to be saying because mine are probably getting lost in the shuffle and I need to work at keeping myself visible. So, in my disappointment, I have been researching what is really going on.
I've found many posts like this about what women "deal with". And I find it interesting how they have the opposite challenge most of the time.
And I was honestly surprised at how jaded they get, but I don't blame them because of all these goofball, creepy, lewd, stalker responses they get. Now I see a dilemma. The nice guys, of which I consider myself right at the center of not so nice that I would be boring, but definitely nice enough to be respectful of a woman and her boundaries and that no means no , can't get responses let alone dates. The nice women seem to get nothing but tons of messages to try to wade through. Who knows where all the drain and noise is coming from, though we know the sources such as scammers, desperate loser types, stalkers, catfishers, etc.
And there doesn't seem to be too much that can be done about limiting that. However, if we are aware of it, we can do things to try to counter it. It also seems that we need to become more strategic and not so bitter about how to approach all of this.
I see where a bridge needs to be built here somehow. Maybe the nice guys need to be recognized more somehow by getting in kind responses from women. If you get a nice initial message, at least say no thank you and even a brief idea of how good the message was.
Us guys get no clue whether we are sending out the right message or not. It would even be nice to get some kind of rating system going like eBay or something. This weird limbo of never knowing if it was the message, the profile, the pictures or if who we messaged is overwhelmed is really tough to deal with. It would also be nice to have women realize that if they are getting decent if not outright nice messages more than once from a guy, that these guys are just trying to stay on top of the crap that that woman is otherwise getting; that they aren't stalking or pestering, they are just wondering if they are getting heard at all.
I don't know what to do about the jerks. I think a lower percentage of guys that are like this are out there. But for some reason these idiots are taking up all of the dating bandwidth. And about the only thing I can see nice guys who really want this to work bringing to the table is to just not get bitter and disappointed. I don't know, it is really hard to see how to break this cycle that is destroying online dating for the majority of us.
It would be helpful to know that possibly a new kind etiquette be understood by women that repeat messages that are nice should be acceptable and that we men kindly engage them with these; that we get a chance to overcome the idiots by countering them somehow. Also, maybe people could work up some kind of meta-dating situation something like responding to websites about online dating or, as I said above, some kind of rating system?
For me, online dating is about my only hope of meeting anyone. I am not religious nor do I drink, even coffee it puts me to sleep. I have food allergies and sensitivities. I work online from home. As a result, I don't go to any place of worship, I don't club or do bars, I can't eat at any restaurants, and I don't have a work environment with other people.
I actually have very few friends despite my best efforts. I keep running across so many people with involved lives of which I am just not a part including my family. So, online is the only place I can even think about meeting people. I go for walks in the park, to the library, and around downtown. What also challenges me is that I am fairly introverted. On top of all this being much older, I have not the foggiest idea on how to hit up a conversation with a woman I've never met before.
I didn't when I was twenty I met my former wife through very unusual circumstances involving an acquaintance and what little dating I did then I did all though people I knew.
How am I going to do it at over fifty and not seem weird? Another approach I am trying is to get involved with community events and groups. But once again, very few, if any women attend what I tend to go to, let alone any who are in my age group and meet other modest criteria, none having to do with "looks".
For instance, I go to a drum circle the only one within 30 miles of me. Of available women who show up a few unavailable do , it is pretty much just one in her 80s along with over twenty guys.
Women tend to do things like Zumba, dance, yoga or other exercise classes where if I showed up, it would be creepy since it will be assumed I am there for only one reason. I would love it if I would be accepted as a drummer for belly or tribal dance, but alas, the same creep factor seems to be at play. Well, I could probably say more, but I hope to start a conversation about what can really be done about this issue and not just complaining about it.
I would really like to overcome the disconnect with what is happening between guys and gals and to renew proper expectations. Otherwise, it will become one of the biggest fails of our technological communications age.
David, what an extremely sensitive and impressive person you are, they are very pwrceptive observations would have been nice to write you up as a friend Do you ever submit correspondence on quora..? Upload your photo's and fill your profile. Look for the bad ones and write a blog post. Start looking for men. Initiate the conversation with the man, and let him rate you as you like to rate men. Not all guys are bad, but not all women are either, and for every man out there sending women messages that women don't want there is a woman out there who thinks she is worth more then men so she doesn't have to give what she takes.
You've been telling men they are doing it wrong for centuries. How about you step up to the plate then? I am trying once again with the online dating. I read the response of the recently divorced 62 year old man in Vancouver. If you haven't been on a date in 27 years, don't be too disappointed if you can't get one right away. As you said, you and your recent ex were introduced.
Probably you had mutual acquaintances and got the opportunity to know one another over time. The only relationships I ever had started this way. Through friends, meeting at a party, seeing the person regularly in my community. If you don't drink, you can still no to a bar. There are loads of places where people socialize, listen to music, dance.
Have a club soda if you don't drink alcohol. I try to read the on line profiles of the men who send me messages. I am never married with no kids. A recently separated man is not for me. He is not actually single. I dated a man who claimed to have been divorced for many years.
He is very involved with his ex wife mother of his adult son as she had an accident and is helping to take care of her. The son 30 years old is a good kid but has a miriad of personal and health problems. He also had a large extended family he spends a lot of time with. This is great, but I was wondering where I fit in. Apparently he is looking for a lover and was VERY forward practically dove on me on our first date.
I am a slow starter and do not appreciate this type of thing. On line dating is not so easy for the over 50 set. Also, since I am not divorced, I usually ask the men why they are divorced. Most do not want to talk about it, so that is a non starter for me. If the person cannot express to me why their marriage did not work out, their are probably a lot of thing they will not be able to express to me.
Just hang in there. Consider yourself lucky for having had a long marriage. If their is a particular reason why your marriage ended, reflect on it honestly so you can communicate it to a new woman who comes into your life. She will probably ask about it. In the meantime, don't think about all the limitations you express about all the reasons you cannot "go out". You say you go to the park. Ask a woman to meet you there. You don't have to drink coffee.
Just buy one for her. Can you go to a museum? If you get to know her better and you like each other, you can cook a meal for her. Take her to a concert, go to a play. There are loads of graduate schools that put on excellent performances of all kinds that are very reasonably priced or free. How in the world do you expect to meet a woman if you do not move away from your computer screen? If you do not step out from.
I paid for an eHarmony subscription for a year because I heard such positive reviews about their matchmaking algorithm, but found that many of the guys also had profiles on POF so I didn't see the point in paying anymore. EHarmony was great in that you could only connect with someone with whom you were deemed compatible, but new matches were sent infrequently.
POF allows anyone to contact anyone so it is easy to be bombarded with unwanted messages from incompatible suitors, but it's free. My biggest complaint about online dating is the deplorable lack of manners and grammar. I don't believe I have ever received a message containing even one punctuation mark in the two years I've been a member on POF, and the messages can be outright lewd!
I've also been the target of a determined fellow more than once, so it really comforted me to read this author experienced the same. I do not engage with users who are disrespectful, have clearly not read my profile, or lack even a basic understanding of spelling and grammar, and I typically delete these unwanted messages.
If you're reading this, guys, please take the author's advice and actually read our profiles before you randomly solicit us for sex, and for heaven's sake use complete sentences!
I look for men who DONT want children I have them already, and finding someone who is happy to date a single mum Even if getting attention IS easy, does it mean the man is necessarily right for me? I read the profiles carefully. And if they read mine carefully, they might discover that I am really not right for them.
I get attention from men all the time. And I speak to men all the time. Finding a special person is not easy for a man or a woman. Speaking from personal experience, a man who has poor hygiene and no employment or income is not the man for me.
He doesn't have to be rich. I will not date a man who asks me to borrow money or cannot pay for a cup of coffee. If he cannot bother to take care of his teeth, shave or put on a clean shirt, what makes him think I would want to get physically close to him? This is pretty basic stuff. The truth is, it is not easy for a man or a a woman to find a good partner. Do you know what you are looking for? If it is just "attention", that is easy to find. If is is a long lasting relationship with a suitable partner, that is not so easy for a man or a woman to find.
Get over the idea that you do not get enough "attention". Personally, I am very allergic to animals. I live in a city and would not date a man with animals. It makes me uncomfortable as I physically cannot tolerate them. I would never ask the man to give up his pet, so when I see a man is an animal lover, I don't respond. It is not that I do not like animals, I just cannot breathe around them.
I had one boyfriend with a dog who kept the animal very clean, his home was spotless he had a professional housekeeper and dog groomer. He also did not allow the dog to lie on the furniture or the bed and was very sensitive to the fact that some people are allergic to animals. I was able to date that man. It is really the exception, however.
Other men I know with pets like to lounge with them, sleep with them, have them hang out everywhere. That's absolutely great, but it does not match up with me. So I do not reply. Think about all the reasons a woman might not reply. Do you live miles away?
Are you spending all your time and money on your children from your previous marriage? Nothing wrong with being a responsible parent, but where does that leave the single woman with no kids you want to date? If she is also divorced with school aged kids, maybe it's a possible match. Women do not "have it easy". And neither do the men. As a man who has NEVER had a date from the 3 main sites I have used, I can categorically say that; even if you read a profile, send a nice message and be pretty much, charming Us "men" get ignored or blocked.
I have been blocked many times for just being interested about a lady's profile. I don't say anything sexual and I am always polite. They want someone to chat to and, when they get bored, there's always more men to choose from.
Women will get around messages every few days. They may be crappy messages but it's still a message. All I see woman say on profiles is how men pester them with sexual comments and, if they are not sexual, all they say is; "hi".
As a man who has NEVER had a date from the 3 main sites I have used, I can catagorically say that; even if you read a profile, send a nice message and be pretty much, charming I am a woman and just gave up on POF and Eharmony because I did not receive 1 message in the whole 6 months I paid to be on both sites. Not lewd, poorly written or otherwise. So I don't' see how it is harder for a man who can message anyone he likes, than it is to sit and wait and get nothing. Even "unattractive" men get more attention than that.
But if you are an average or worse looking female, you might as well not even sign up. You would be lucky to get get a reply. And as far as average women, let me tell you I'm not one to judge but I know women who by most standards would be considered below average.
She has showed me. And secondly it's hard not to get a bit of any ego or get pick when you feel you have the power of choice. Lastly unattractive men do not get a response period. They either get laughed at, get turned into a joke, or have woman block them or threaten them simply for showing interest even if they did so in a completely normal, acceptable way.
I'm not saying whether you had it hard or not. But if you think any mean who isn't on the higher side of average is realistically getting any attention you have alot to learn about the male side of this.
Also why can't you intimate a conversation? I'm female and I've been on Match on and off 3 times. First when I was 50 and looked Then 55 and looked 50, etc. I look great and younger. I had pretty much nothing but weirdos asking for pics naked before we met really? Out of all this, I had a few coffees and drinks I won't go to dinner with someone that I haven't met, as I don't want to waste their money or mine if we don't click a bit, so it's coffee or drinks at first out of many responses, I had no one go out with me that I responded to, I had 2 crazy men I ended up leaving the date after they got weird, and only 1 man who I am still friends with 5 years later.
We never became romantic as there was no spark, but we hit it off as friends, something I wasn't looking for, really, but, I figured, oh, well, a single woman can always use a guy friend, and we help each other out with chores. He helps me with yard work and woodworking, I help him with laundry and ironing. Not often, but from time to time we hang out.
I don't think its possible for someone in my age group to suceed on line. To women who think that men that get no responses on dating sites are genetic losers or something, you couldnt be more wrong. I get a lot of attention from women outside, im 6 foot 2 and confident and women respond a lot to it. I also look better in real life than on a selfie, id need a professional photographer almost to make me look how I look at myself in the mirror thats what others see anyway.
I've seen similar guys as me, popular guys that try tinder and get zilch. Is it our fault for not wanting to work more on our profiles and hire professional photographers?
Anyway I find anyone who spends more than 2 hours on an internet profile is wasting their time. I'll just stick to real life, where women show a lot more judgement. I am 6 foot and confident and well dressed. I have a job and I am reasonably good looking.
These 2 gentleman are correct. There is no point to it anymore. It's a losing game and it's only getting worse. We aren't trying to bat out of our league either, it just is what it is. Online dating is dying and women killed it.
This is my situation. My online profile gets less attention than my real life presence I'm a bit ticked. I currently have 3 women I work with that I'm not really interested in at all totally keep giving me the "I want you look". I don't like going to bars because I'm not much of a public social drinker, and I abhor 1 night stands with people I don't know very well.
I'm not very tall 5'11" and apparently good looking enough to always attract attention from someone at least once a month.
I've had way more success than most men on dating sites. Most of the women I've met just want casual sex, typically one night stands. My last two girlfriends from POF were abusive and one pretended to be pregnant. Most women I've chatted to without meeting just wanted an ego boost or to talk to "friends" on a dating site! Any woman is going to get a ton more genuine guys than a man will get genuine women. It's a numbers game and the numbers will always favour the girls. Let's hear about how terrible it is for women.
Ok lil boys and girls, heres what they dont tell you and why you do or dont get replies based on your gender. In the age groups.. First the women on these sites. Now guys for the most part my brethren are the same except where as the women imply theyre single, you retards take off your wedding rings and replace them with credit cards, because all your looking for is a piece if strange and an ego boost cause you knocked up your ol'ladies and no one told you after she pops out a few lil ones her tits are gonna sag and her ass is gonna get wider than broad st, so you think your entitled to go out and chase young strange until you get caught, then you whine like the bitches you are when you do , and dont wanna give up the old and busted til you have the new hotness commited , basically just like all the women do
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If you feel you're a 6, you should be messaging 4s or less. And there's hardly a better way to become reacquainted than by peering into a running rotary engine, which you can do with the video above. This time I find pof a total waste of time I am a gold member but our of couple of dozens ladies I contacted 1 only replied back and she told me you are a really nice man and wish you best of luck but just started to date a man.
My wife, who until recently has shown no real interest in sports cars beyond their design, wants one. And then there're slap-on hacks that publish a month-worth of mediocre coding as a real product, on some oh-so-SE0-friendly domain, without any real credentials, documentation or support.
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